Once my colleague attended a training session on relationships between men and women, and afterward he shared his impressions about it with me. The training, of course, began with introductions. First, the group leader invited the young men to sit in a circle and get to know each other. And the girls watched them. The acquaintance of the young people began with the fact that they took out their business cards and began to brag to each other about who had achieved what, who was what, for a given period of time. They shook hands and introduced themselves by name. And the coach said that for a man in his male society it is important to really be someone, to achieve something. So that he would be accepted as an equal and worthy member of the group. Then the girls sat in a circle and began to introduce themselves in their own way. My colleague told me with interest how interesting it is for girls to get to know each other. And at this time I kept thinking how different we all are... And how interesting the guys behave in this situation... And, probably, that’s why at the moment, even if you shoot me, I don’t remember what my colleague told me about the behavior of girls ...Although I deeply believe that they did not take out their business cards and diplomas and did not shake each other’s hands - that’s for sure. From similar dating exercises at other trainings that I attended, I noticed that we girls told each other more about family, husbands, children, friends... For most women, these topics are still a “reason for boasting” among themselves... And only partly we communicate with each other about work...Despite the 21st century and gender equality, we are men and women, we still spend our time differently, we are interested in different things. Because if this does not happen, then we will not fit into the circle of our female (or male) communication. Remember according to E. Bern, if you do not fit into the group in terms of your topics, then it will gradually outlive you. I also remember a case when We once communicated with a female colleague who had excelled as a specialist and employee; everyone valued and respected her very highly at work. (I am also, in principle, a careerist. It was cold that day and I was sitting in a fur coat.). That day we were destined to wait together for too long at the door of the same office. After talking about work, we started talking about our own things, women’s things. I told her about my son and daughter, about finishing my next studies. About how dad bought new gifts for the children for the New Year. And she said thoughtfully and sadly: “Look how you came to be. But I have no one...no husband, no child.” In society, there are still stereotypes of what a man should be. What a woman should be like. And the MOST, as before, still set the tone for the entire male crowd and the entire female crowd. Most women can talk for hours on some topics. And these topics are discussed anew with each new friend. They discuss in detail how she met her husband (her beloved person), how he invited her on the first date, where he took her, what gifts he gave her. How the wedding went. How difficult it was for her to give birth to a child. What flowers did her beloved give her on that significant day, was his look joyful, confused or frightened... Where did they go on vacation... And on what day, month, year of their acquaintance did He give her a fur coat. And all of the above is just part the lives of most women. AND THAT'S ALL! A FUR COAT is simply a sign of wealth and prosperity, of a woman, of the family itself, a symbol of a man's good attitude towards his beloved. For many, this symbol is just an external entourage. But all symbols remain symbols. “I have succeeded!»