I cheated, betrayed, the truth was revealed, he began to sort things out, she, without thinking twice, pointed her finger at the door with the words “I’m tired of you, I never loved you, go away forever " What should he do, of course he left, the apartment is not his. Ashes remain from her former life, and she writes verbose messages, the essence of which boils down to the following: “I always knew that you were a freak. You haven't seen your children for two months now. The father is called blah blah blah... I will file for deprivation of parental rights.” The sacramental question “What to do?” "Who is guilty ?" Of course, a man’s wife does not cause him any torment. He really doesn't want to see the children. He wants one thing - in a noose, because he catches himself thinking that he hates children more than his wife. On a rational level, this feeling is inexplicable. The children did not cheat on the man, and they did not kick him out of the house. Living with a feeling of hatred for your own children is unbearable. To the question “What should I do?” I want to answer very directly. Hatred of children is a consequence of the repression of hatred of one’s wife. The insult inflicted on her was so great that the psyche cannot cope with hatred of her alone. Children are her natural continuation, which means you can totally hate everything connected with her. In this case, the totality is truly all-encompassing. Until recently, a man also revolved in the orbit of this woman, was part of her, which means he needs to hate himself. The question is why? No matter where you look, logic will tell you that you are a victim all around, you need to find a way out. The unconscious is capable of many things. You can hate yourself for hating children. Only in this case will the circle close. The wife will completely dehumanize; there will not be a single “positive” connection left with her. If the man continued to communicate normally with the children, then he would need to come to an agreement with the wife, make contact, negotiate. It would be necessary to see the children and talk to them about their mother, answer questions. In general, there are a lot of things to do that are currently impossible to bear. Even the option of depriving parental rights, within the framework of this crippled logic, is not so bad. One monster will deprive the right to see the children of another monster. All are bad. Everyone is unhappy. There may come a time when it is too late to say the word “STOP”. You can be offended by your wife as much as you like. Finding out why she did this to you is the beginning of a way out of the impasse. It may be too late to restore your relationship with your children. You are simply turning a bad situation into a catastrophic one. If you are not ready to communicate with your children now, you need to explain this to them. Say that you have things to do, but you will soon appear in their life. You really have a lot to do. You need to get your head in order. Figure out your life and decide where to live next. You need to ask for help. CBT 24/7. Effective help for Depression. Divorce. Anxiety.