How do you want to live? To truly live, and not survive while waiting for your cherished dreams to come true. After all, with years of waiting, we do not get younger and even, it seems, not always wiser - rather, life’s difficulties simply discourage desires and hopes. Striving for their goals in life, many have suffered defeat more than once, again feeling like a gullible child, and the world around - empty and hostile. And at the same time, very close to us, on the same streets of the city, more successful men and women walk, who have already received much of what we desire. Modern psychology is studying how some manage to achieve their goals, while others do not. And to make winners out of victims of circumstances who themselves create these circumstances is the goal of psychotherapy. Such a transformation of a person and his life is possible when we work not only with the structure of your personality, but also with its foundation - in the form of the past. You can become more effective and find happiness in absolutely any environment - finally managing to get out of even the most unfavorable ones. Impossible? The unwanted child Hossein Ozer did not even go to school due to his parents' divorce and became a street vagabond who went from homeless to a multimillionaire who owns a chain of London restaurants. A person who had nothing succeeded in all this only through the use of his own psyche in life. Thanks only to the correct use of his own psyche, troubles and problems can simply become stepping stones on the path to efficiency and happiness in life. But this path still needs to be walked. And for this, in therapy we create the behavior necessary to achieve the goal (so that you can find the right way out of problems), the state (so that this path from terrible hard labor turns into a pleasant life), the right beliefs (which will support you in your new life). only many are literally like in the famous joke: they pray to God to win the lottery, but at the same time they are in no hurry to buy themselves the coveted ticket to a new life. What is the secret of success? It's very simple. As Ostap Bender said: “Life is a complicated thing, but this complicated thing opens simply like a box.” And the key is three basic beliefs, with the help of which anything can be achieved and you can even go from a tramp to a millionaire. These beliefs: I'm fine - simply because the probability of your birth itself was 1 in 40 million - approximately the same number of sperm competed for primacy. How would you feel about the winner of a marathon with 40 million competitors? Anyone else who came first would have been a different person. Identical twins, completely identical in appearance, are still different people with different souls. Those who understand this truth become able to improve something in their lives. Because until you accept yourself, there is no one to improve this life for... Others are fine - when you understand that they are just people with their own problems, who, like you, strive for happiness. When you, like Hossein Ozer, are able to at least have a neutral and understanding attitude towards your parents, even those who created a terrible childhood for you. Thanks to the acceptance of this truth, any enemies turn into teachers who force you to develop and not sit still. The world is in order - any problems are simply a misheard call of life for evolution. But we often, instead of developing, react in the opposite way: we simply get offended by the world and freeze. But life's problems are nothing more than tests, the solution of which ensures promotion to a higher class. Through therapy, or on your own - if you understand them and accept them as a guide, your life will improve significantly, and you will see simple solutions to your problems. Studies of the biographies of successful people have shown that they achieved success in completely different ways - there is no single recipe. But all breakthroughs and takeoffs have one thing in common - a glimpse of these three truths about attitude towards yourself, others and the world.