It is quite difficult to explain people’s predilection for something specific in sex, and it is even more difficult to get to the bottom of what caused the appearance of the fetish itself. It should be immediately explained what “specific” means. The answer to this question is actually both easy and difficult. What is perversion? What is our specific? For some, forms of BDSM, role-playing games and other things are considered perversion. At the same time, they consider it completely normal to be aroused by the sight of beautiful lingerie and other “harmless things.” Others will scream Freud's “even a kiss is a perversion.” That is, for them there is only one sex and one way to decorate it - to connect the genitals of a man and a woman. I will adhere to the fact that any “decoration” for sex is a perversion. And here I do not want to insult any predilection with the word “perversion”. Just let it all have one name and nothing more. But the real problem is to trace the moment when our perversions begin to manifest themselves. At what point does this happen? Usually this happens during the first (teenage) sexual outbursts. That is, when you don’t even really know about it all, but you already “want” and something starts buzzing inside. Very often it happens that it is precisely those things that we see and those situations in which we find ourselves in these very moments of buzzing that influence our future lives and form our own fetishes - perversions. It’s probably worth giving an example here: A little boy, at the peak of his first “outburst,” sees a scene (in a film, a porn video, or managed to spy somewhere in real life) where two adults are having sex. He does not yet understand what is happening inside him, but he is already buzzing strongly, and something is clearly happening. I just wish I could understand. In this scene, a girl (or an adult woman) is dressed in beautiful lingerie (let’s say she’s wearing stockings). Will this boy now be a lifelong “fan” of beautiful lingerie, stockings and other attributes of women? Maybe. This is a rather exaggerated example, but it looks something like this. In fact, outbursts happen even earlier; fixation on something can begin at a very early age. This issue was studied in some detail by S. Freud and other psychoanalysts. Thus, life, situations, circumstances - all this shapes and even adds perversion to our developing personality.© Psychologist Nikita Myshev, 2021. All rights reserved. Sign up for a consultation: +7-906-719-84-00Whatsapp/Telegram