Sexuality is inextricably linked to emotionality and the ability to love/receive love from another person. How developed are a person’s relationships with others? Is it possible to be angry or rejoice out loud? Remember the Soviet: “If you rejoice, you will invite trouble”... And then the feelings are frozen, as if the Snow Queen had cast a spell. If you grew up in a family where the manifestation of strong emotions was prohibited, the topic of relations between a man and a woman is taboo, the consequences may be emotional coldness, and shame for your “wrong” feelings. Actually, there was no one who would talk, hear, accept the child; later, the adult creates a scenario that is fueled by the unconscious fantasy “in order to be loved, I must be good, correct, without mistakes,” - ideal, without any impurities. Like refined sugar. And the game of “good wife or husband” begins, as if everything is for real. You just can’t get the expected pleasure from relationships, from yourself and your sexuality. The inner part of the Self is frozen, not sensitive. Emotionally/sexually cold people often choose sensitive partners who try to “stir up” them, unfreeze them. Remember the cartoon "Frozen"? Confrontation between warmth and emotional indifference. Or they choose the same emotionally closed ones. Adult partners get so used to the lack of love, warmth and benevolent attitude, as if there was no other option and it happens somewhere on another planet. How to melt the ice if you have discovered sexual and emotional in yourself or your partner coldness? Behind frigidity and restraint hides many fears about yourself and your partner. It’s scary to expose yourself, to find yourself weak and vulnerable without ice armor, or angry, bad, and most of all, it’s scary that the other partner won’t care, he’ll hurt, take advantage of... Ice melts love and a good, sincere attitude. But this is also scary, to love - to be loved. Be sexy. Sexuality is not only a set of physical data, it is about the inner: how much love was there in the first relationship - from mother and father, but did they love each other? Or were they arguing and it was unclear why they were even together? ... or dad didn’t admire his daughter, what a beauty and good girl she is. If there was a lack of positive reinforcement, the relationship with parents was dysfunctional, then instead of satisfying sexuality there will be physical use of one’s body for pseudo-sexual purposes. Positive emotional reinforcement from parental figures – the key to healthy sexuality in the future!