- He insisted that I leave that job. Now I'm doing something I don't like at all. Why did I just listen to him! It turns out that she really liked “that job” that the client left at the insistence of her husband. But, like any other job, there were sometimes difficulties. And sometimes, she was just tired, and she wanted her husband to take pity on her (quite a girlish desire) And she complained to him about her work, about her colleagues, about her boss. How difficult it is for her. And her husband, instead of feeling sorry for her (for which, in fact, everything was started) suddenly began to insist on her dismissal. And he didn’t rest until he achieved his goal. Why did this happen? Because a complaint is a very powerful weapon when a woman complains to her man. And like any weapon, it can be dangerous if used incorrectly. When a woman complains to her man, it is a call for him to solve her problem. Literally - I feel bad, help me! And he decides and helps: “There is a situation in which my wife feels bad. We need to protect her from this situation, save her!” And then the woman gets offended by him. What conclusions follow from this? 1. If you want a man to take pity on you, sympathize with you, and support you morally, then you need to ask for it. In clear text that only men understand. Instead of “he’s such a bastard, and because of him I had to... I don’t know what to do anymore! I have no strength and I don’t have enough evil!”, it’s better to say “please, sit next to me and hug me tightly, tightly! Otherwise I’ve been solving too important problems all day today, and I’m very tired of it!”2. You can resort to complaints only when you need real help, advice, action. And you definitely shouldn’t abuse them! Otherwise it will turn out like in a fairy tale about a boy and wolves. Remember this one? Having run in vain, the men spat, and when the wolves really came, they did not go to save the quarrelsome boy and his herd. Likewise, sometimes a wife, constantly tugging at her husband with or without business, demotivates him. And at first he begins to avoid any actions at all (Why? If, anyway, then you will be extreme...) And then he completely gets used to her constant whining as a background mode. Agree, girls, this is not at all what we would like.?