I came across an advertisement somewhere for “Breakfast at Tiffany’s”. I looked at Audrey Hepburn and thought: there’s definitely something about femininity and sophistication here. I decided to look and notice my attitude towards femininity. It was my attitude that upset me 😂😂What I saw first. My first impression: “oh, these women” 🤪😂. That is. From the first frames, she embodied everything why I once decided that I needed to become an achiever. Stupidity, naivety, emptiness, money and dresses. Then, during school time, I thought - all girls are empty, I’m more interested in boys. These are echoes of a positive father complex. When there is more identification with dad than with mom. When a parent of the opposite sex is taken as a role model. Although ideally, during the oedipal stage of 4-6 years, identification with the parent of the same sex should occur. That is, mom should become an example, but dad became an example. I wrote about this in more detail in a previous post. Even “Decorator” from the first minutes - a large woman, essentially a man in a skirt, who pays the main character - displays the complete opposite of Holly. A lot of achievement energy, control, that’s what matters. The phrases are beautiful, but not feminine at all. So I look and try to change my attitude. I think: what is the advantage in general? Her neighbor constantly scolds her. What would I do? I would rather make the keys and wouldn’t even understand how they could be lost, what kind of frivolity. What is she? She smiled, released feminine energy - and everything was forgiven to her. She seems to behave strangely, but still everything works out as she should. And it's really easy. Everything is somehow calm. Looking at her, I tried to rethink my childhood decision. As a result, I see that tenderness and lightness that I cannot afford. And if we talk about the character more specifically. What do we see? Insecure attachment type - avoidant. Difficult childhood, running away from parents, marriage at 14. I found a dad and a family. And she ran away from there too. She also well emphasized her desire to “not be close” and to distance herself in the relationship by the fact that nothing can belong to her. Even a cat. She doesn't even give the cat a name. That is, fear of intimacy, affection. This is actually where the film ends. How the main character, confessing his love to her, says that he is running from intimacy, and that it is normal to belong to each other - this is how people become happy. Remember? We all want secure affection and sincerity. And to be accepted in all aspects of our personality. The metaphor was amazing in the film itself, when Holly spoke to her ex-husband: “You choose wild animals. You bring them home. They get stronger and run away." She hinted that she too was this wild animal. Why? Because it doesn’t belong, it won’t be close. Have you seen the movie? How do you like it?