From the author: Guide to action for developing a state of harmony Live with pleasure and benefit Friends! Do you agree that it is desirable to live both with pleasure and benefit? Separately, something is somehow missing. It is easier to combine these different concepts. Still, these are not synonyms. Benefit is of an effective-objective nature. And pleasure from the world of feelings is a spiritual substance. So we will restore the integrity of our body and perception of reality, connecting the physical visible world with the invisible non-objective - the biology of the body and the evolutionarily new (the last cognitive superstructure ) - our consciousness. It would seem that with positive results I get pleasure. But that’s a long time to wait! Why wait in tense anticipation of doubts? It’s better for me to change their places and have fun at the beginning - then the result will come quickly and of high quality. And I will save energy and even increase it. I begin to grow my personal pleasure in the evening: - falling asleep, I say to my husband (from fatigue, often without a smile) “good night”, I say to myself “good night Tanyusha” and I say good night to my mother and children (and even my deceased father) - this is how I pump myself with resources directly into my subconscious. - therefore, when I wake up, I am already ready for pleasure - and I say “good morning” to us all with pleasure and a smile - every time I hug my husband, myself and mentally my family - my husband is unnoticed by me also began to hug me and not only when I want it (I expect it from him) - when I want to increase my pleasure - I hug, including with my friends - and with those I like (even those I didn’t know before) - I I don’t waste time thinking about what those people will think of me. I know that later they will still do the same as me - according to the principles of infection and imitation. And what difference does it make what they think and say? Saying it doesn’t mean doing it - my day continues with pleasure - I eat with pleasure - I study with pleasure - I work with pleasure - I happily conduct consultations - I am happy to write articles - I am happy to have sex with my husband (sorry) - this is life! and its important part... - I am happy to clean our house - I am happy to cook this incomprehensible (overly loaded with seafood ingredients) paella - I am happy to relax - I am happy to look after my husband - I am happy to take care of myself - I am happy to ask my husband for help and from other people - I’m happy to say to people “hello and goodbye and thank you and please” - I’m happy to tell my husband “I’m very sorry that we didn’t understand each other...” - I’m happy to say words of love to my loved ones - with pleasure I tell myself words of love - I am happy to not do what I don’t want to do, and even when necessary - when I really need to - I am happy to do what I need to do - I am happy to be late - I am happy to not get enough sleep - well, don’t waste my energy on experiences! Where's the fun in that? Don’t be afraid to make a mistake....to be presumptuous...to be insolent - your personal values ​​will not allow you to do this - they always regulate a person’s activities from the position of “good-bad” priority. And for those who have not formed values, it will be even more difficult for them to have fun. Because the focus on an external assessment of approval - not approval by society - will be misleading and help you “lose your desires and yourself.” There are exceptions - it is not possible to do everything with pleasure. However! There is no need to confuse 3 different main life situations. This is a situation that is not normal for a person and his behavior in a situation that is not normal for a person - loss, death, catastrophes, violence, terrorist attacks.....It is not normal to be happy at the same time - it is normal to be sad, worry...( Self-help for anxiety) - normal situations and abnormal human behavior in a normal situation. It’s not normal to be upset at this (for no reason....overly upset). It is normal to be positive - situations are normal and human behavior is normal in a normal situation. It’s normal to be in harmony - a joyful state of mind and body (relaxation, without