I have noticed that quite often women behave with men as if they are “renting themselves out to them” in the hope that later, after a “test drive,” so to speak, the man will still want to “make a purchase.” I understand that this sounds quite harsh, but the way these poor women behave in the hope of earning and begging for love is even worse. Such women voluntarily agree to literally any conditions that a man puts forward for them so that he appreciates them and pays more attention to them took a closer look. That is, from the outside it looks as if a man is not choosing the woman he loves and the mother of his future children, but is simply choosing his next car or choosing a good apartment that he will later want to buy. But before that, he arranges a so-called “test drive” ", that is, he tries to arrange it for him, and if a woman allows him to do this, and even vice versa, he immediately begins to “advertise” himself and show all his advantages and advantages, why he should choose her, and then the man “takes” this woman for rent and mostly for an indefinite period. And at this time she continues to bend over backwards so that he can finally “make a purchase.” In life, this “rent” mainly manifests itself in cohabitation, which lasts for years, during which the man continues to “feed” the woman with promises of “here.” to marry her, and she continues to wait and try even harder, so that he certainly does not have any doubts that “he must take it.” And the man at this time calmly continues to “rent” and does not even think that it is possible something to change and “make a purchase”, because why change something, since everything suits him anyway, well, at least he is...? “Yes, and the woman is probably also happy with everything, since she is still with me and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere...” - a man can think something like this and move on with his life calmly. Therefore, my dear women, stop deserving , beg and wait for love where, as you see, there is none. You don’t have to agree to all the conditions and do everything a man tells you, just so that he finally appreciates you. It doesn’t work like that, so first of all, respect yourself and your desires and needs, and then everyone else will “catch up.” If you, for example, want a family and marriage, but you see that a man is simply fooling you and does not share your desires, thank him for all the good things that happened between you and move on. Don't waste your time showing him how great you are. Believe me, he already knows this, as well as the fact that you want to marry him, since you have already told him about it more than once. And sometimes he can also use this desire of yours for his own interests, for example, continue to “feed” you with promises so that you don’t leave him anywhere. But basically, he may now simply have slightly different goals and plans than you . This happens in life and there is nothing you can do about it. Therefore, you should not allow someone to “rent” you for years in the hope that it will “pay off” for you later. You are not a commodity, not a thing, or even a trophy that still needs to be won. You are just a woman who wants to love and be loved - nothing more and nothing less. A woman who deserves this even without all these “test drives” that have already been going on for years and for which there is still no end in sight. Therefore, either enjoy the relationship that you already have - without expectations and “begging for love”, or , if this does not suit you, look for a man with the same desires and needs as you - mutual love, family and children in the near future, and not just in 5-10 years. And then you will really feel happy and calm in your relationship with a man, and this is the most important thing. Good luck to you! If the article was useful and interesting for you, do not forget to click “thank you” and also subscribe so as not to miss my new articles) Sincerely, your psychologist, Victoria Kirsta