Do you have a lot of overcoming in your life? Fight with yourself, with others, with circumstances. With yourself - to force yourself to do something. To force yourself to become someone else, the proverbial “better version of yourself.” With others - for what you think you are owed. For others to be what you want. With circumstances that are also “not like that” and “wrong.” All life is a struggle. Every day is like being at war. Overcome, force, cope, endure. John Lennon wrote: “Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.” To paraphrase, we can say: “Life is what happens to you while you are vigorously struggling with everything.” Is this exactly the kind of life you want? Are you sure you can’t stop fighting? Maybe you can let everything just be? If you think about your wars - what will happen if you stop overcoming yourself, circumstances, others? At least in some way? I assume that when thinking about this, anxiety and fear will arise. — In my work as a psychotherapist, I encounter one fairly typical fear inherent in smart and interesting people, whose lives are described in different words, but not by the word “unsuccessful.” " People are afraid that without overcoming themselves they will become, or rather remain, as they are. Paradox: a person is smart, energetic and has achieved a lot - and is afraid to remain himself. Because there is a conviction inside that the person as he is is not good enough. Not perfect enough. Not enough. Ears grow, like many others, from childhood. Someone constantly demanded to be better - otherwise he would not give love, and this became fixed as a habitual, unconscious behavior. Life is eternal proof that you are worthy. Proof to someone who is long gone. For the sake of what is no longer truly important. You can deal with it. The result is a life with less stress and displeasure. And - paradox - with better results.