A girl comes to me with a complaint that inflammation has appeared on her eye. “This is a typical inflammation,” she says, “this is not the first stye in my life and, unfortunately, I know what will happen next.” Elena said that she had stye more than once - similar painful sensations appeared, then the inflammation intensified, the eye was swollen. This lasted 7-10 days; symptomatic treatment, as a rule, did not bring relief and did not affect the recovery time. When the first symptoms appeared this time, Lena decided to study them from a psychosomatic point of view, since we had already worked with other symptoms before, the approach turned out to be close to Lena and she had good results. I had a free window, and we immediately started working. For information: Barley, or hordeolum, is an acute purulent inflammation of the hair follicle of the eyelash or the sebaceous gland, which is located near the eyelash bulb. It can be external (along the edges of the eyelid) or internal (in the thickness of the eyelid). Inflammation lasts on average 1-2 weeks. We worked using the method of emotional-imaginative therapy. Within the framework of this method, we look at the symptom as a consequence of a repressed negative emotional state, once recorded in the child’s unconscious and reflecting his unresolved psychological problem (internal conflict). A symptom starts in adulthood under the influence of a trigger - something that reminds of a traumatic childhood experience. You can see more about how emotional-imaginative therapy in the field of psychosomatics works in this video: www.psichosomatika.ru/post/secret- emotional-figurative-therapy-why-symptoms-of-disease-pass First, I explained to Lena that from the point of view of Biology (also a psychosomatic approach), her symptom has a specific goal - to protect her from attack. And indeed, no matter how much I worked with the symptoms of stye, one way or another, an “attacking figure” (a screaming boss, a devaluing teacher, a parent, a partner, etc.) always appeared on the life stage as a psychological reason and quite strong emotions associated with it, correlating with the force of inflammation. Lena said that this is exactly what is happening at her work on both sides: the workload and tension in the team have increased, the boss is constantly on edge, screaming, one colleague has also become unrestrained in her expressions, in addition, Lena was unfairly accused of making a mistake, then they found out everything, but did not apologize. What Lena described completely fell under similar traumatic events and experiences at the basis of such symptoms in other people. It was only necessary to figure out what Lena’s experiences were based on, and how to change her emotional state .If you read my articles, you probably noticed that in the process of research I approach situationally from different sides - sometimes starting with a programming conflict, sometimes with a triggering one. This is not important for the healing process. Emotionally imagery therapy is a deep therapy - it looks deeper than the triggering situation. As a rule, it is the programming history that manifests itself in it. Why does a person react this way now? Why is it that in similar situations some people are calm, while others fall apart? Because if there were not a fixed negative internal state inside, which a person represses and tries to get rid of in every possible way, there would not be a dramatic reaction in the present that triggers a symptom of the disease. Now, using Lena as an example, I will show you this again. To the repressed negative In emotional-imaginative therapy, we are guided through the state by images, being indicators of what is repressed. At the same time, they also provide clues about the context of the traumatic experience and show whether transformation has occurred. We have such a tool of help and self-help in our hands. “Lena, you very accurately describe the triggering experiences at the heart of this symptom,” I said. - But you and I, as always, need to get deeper - intoprogramming history, that is, into that internal deep emotional state of devaluation, which is painfully actualized under the influence of a screaming boss, an unrestrained colleague and groundless accusations. We need to find the state that responds to this, trying to disappear from attention again, in particular with the help of a symptom. “Yes, I’m ready,” Lena answered. “Then, as always, imagine in the form of a spontaneous image what your stye looks like most.” Lena is already an experienced person, so she answered without hesitation: “This is a small bullet.” She is so nimble, she rushes about, flies back and forth, she can fly away from any danger. - Why does she fly back and forth? Why is she so fast? What is she trying to avoid with this? Lena thought about it and after a while answered: “She wants to hide from people.” “And how do people threaten her?” “That’s the way,” Lena answered, “they can run over you, offend you, yell at you.” “Look.” at her from the side. How do you look at her yourself? How do you feel when you look at this bullet and know its fears and desire to run away? “Absolutely indifferent,” Lena said. - I know that only I can help her, but I’m telling the truth - I’m indifferent. - Well done! - I said. “What we need here is the truth.” Thanks to her, we now see another part of you – indifference. This part obviously wants to be above this? “Yes,” said Lena, “she is so arrogantly indifferent.” This is me, who looks very good, and she is truly above this. - Indifference, arrogance, ostentatious grandeur are not innate natural traits of a person. If they appear, there must be a reason for it. Their nature is to protect, to help cope with something extremely unpleasant. Here look. In this process, the following characters appear on the stage: attacking people, who in internal perception are a threat, a traumatized part that is afraid of these people, a protective part that is trying to hide and run away from this threat, another protective part, but choosing another strategy - the desire for greatness and superiority. You made a bet on greatness: if I look cool, I come across as cool, they will love me, and I will feel needed and valuable. And the second bet is to run away: if there is a risk that they will see that I am not cool, but just the way I am, I have to run. The goal of both strategies is to avoid feelings of devaluation and uselessness. But let's be honest with ourselves now: did you manage to escape from this state? No matter how much you use both strategies, the feeling of uselessness remains inside you - we see it right here today. Moreover, it is at the heart of the symptom. This means that all these bets were a mistake - nothing has changed. The child often unconsciously resorts to one or another strategy to satisfy a frustrated need. In this case we are talking about the need for recognition of value. But this bet is initially a failure, since the solution is generally in the other direction. I want to offer you an experiment - let's try to go a different way if the old one did not work. Lena nodded in agreement. Look at the bullet and tell her: “I see how you have been running away from people for many years so that no one notices your imperfection. But you were wrong , your bet on being recognized by other people doesn't work. You still don't feel your worth no matter how much you run. So you don't need to run anymore, I won't force others to like you anymore. Instead, I will recognize and accept you. completely and you don’t have to do anything for this - I will love you any way.” Since we had already discussed it many times and knew for sure that we were talking about Lena’s frustrated need for recognition of her need and value, I suggested Lena accept this feeling, feel it within herself and strengthen it by imagining herself in a situation where she is needed and valuable for the world and all, all people - to feel how this feeling ignites and flares up inside. And after that I asked what she felt and what was happening to image of pulka? Lena said: - You know, when I told pulka that her strategywrong and you will never get from people what you expect from them, I felt very sad, but for some reason just as calm. And when I allowed, instead of looking for this need and running away from people, to accept value and need simply as a given, at first distrust appeared: “It just can’t be like that.” But I allowed myself to experiment and really felt these states. I have it inside. It was as if I had switched to a different state. I don’t understand how. Tears appeared in Lena’s eyes, her voice trembled a little. There was a transformation process going on - so simple and so big. “That’s exactly how it happens,” I said, “this is an active position (I am the source of what I feel) instead of a dependent position (I am a consequence of how other people behave with me) . Well done for not blocking this process within yourself and taking the plunge! What happens to the image of the bullet? - It loses its boundary, energy waves emerge from it like lightning - they are of different colors. - Wow! What if you share with her the energy of those new sensations that you now have inside? Imagine how you take a piece and convey this value and need to her. - The light and spills of energy expand. Now they seem to fill the universe with themselves, connecting with it. “Strongly,” I said. You understand that now you are responsible for this internal state. You will have to strengthen it within yourself. At first, it is possible to feel it forcibly, imagining how everyone loves and appreciates you, including this source of love inside, and then it will become natural. In any case, you have this responsibility, it was and will be, and then your choice is to hope that this value will come from outside or to cultivate it inside, that is, to give it to yourself. “Yes,” said Lena, “now I understand it.” . I feel it and understand that it needs to be strengthened. And now I’m also thinking that I just almost messed up and didn’t leave work. Now I understand that this was another escape from the feeling of inferiority, which I myself supported. - Yes, these are strong realizations, you’re great. Next we did similar work with the image of the arrogant and indifferent part. Let me remind you of the second compensatory strategy that Lena unconsciously played in her life, running away from feelings of inferiority and uselessness. I won’t describe the details - both processes are very similar. The goal is to see the fallacy of these strategies: no matter how much you use them, the result remains zero. And then take an effective step - share the desired state with this part, realizing that it has always been and is inside you. Yes, yes - this is also where our creativity manifests itself - to choose and create our own state. After this, I suggested that Lena conduct a test: to assess how her new state would affect her feelings regarding unrestrained words addressed to her or unfair accusations: - Lena, imagine yourself in those unpleasant situations at work, but with new feelings of value and need inside. How do you feel about them now? - You know, very calmly - this is their business and their anger - it does not concern me - neither in feelings nor in reality. It's not mine at all. - Super! I really like it when a person comes to the real state of affairs! Someone else's anger is really none of your business. Only if it doesn't go to your injury. And I'm glad you decided not to run away this time. Look at the situation as a training that will help you transform something important inside. It will be like a mirror to reflect what requires attention. When there is nothing to reflect, you will be surprised how it will stop touching you or simply disappear from your life. Finally, I suggested that Lena metaphorically turn to the part of the brain that created her symptom and tell it: “Thank you for your help, but there is no need to protect me anymore - I will not attack myself and I will no longer accept attacks from others. Instead, I give myself a different state - a natural, undistorted value - and I will maintain it, bearing responsibility for it. I don’t need your help anymore.” Lena said and.