A lot of places now I hear/see such phrases as “I’m living the best version of myself” or “I’ll start life from scratch” HOW can this be done? And the main question is WHY? People so often devalue themselves that, in pursuit of “fashion,” they think that they unconditionally love and value themselves, erasing all their valuable experience. Let’s imagine, there is a certain girl Allochka (sorry, all the Alls of the world) and now she, coming home from a job she doesn’t like, starts bingeing on sweets and then sits on Instagram until midnight, scrolling through the feed and feeds of successful and “happy” women goddesses who earn a lot, breathe wombs and are the sexual epicenter of all men in the world (also a generalization, of course , but for the sharpness of the effect) So, she suddenly got tired of living like this, she pulled herself together, bought coaching from a successful success, or simply with inner awareness came to the decision to change her life (and there is nothing wrong with that!) And now, after a while of her hard work on herself she says: “now I live the best version of myself”…. “after I started my life from scratch”….. Well, how did a person so sharply separate his “old” self from his “new” self? Has the man been reborn? Did he throw the old man out of himself and sew in a new one? Where is true self-love and self-acceptance here? Where is THANK YOU to that Allochka, who every evening devoured her suppressed emotions and ran away from real life on Instagram* so as not to feel that pain??? The only way to help yourself is to give up your old self? ? But what about that experience, those mental pains from which, at one fine moment, you get so tired and CHOOSE to act differently. You make new decisions BASED ON YOUR OLD one!!!! EXPERIENCE!!! And a huge thank you to Allochka, who survived all this, showed a life where there is no satisfaction of true needs, where she does not know how to relax and enjoy life and herself. But now it is not needed??? And you can just “throw it away” like that? “Sorry, now I’m a different Allochka, let’s do it, bye.” I believe that you cannot achieve a stable and effective result without accepting all your shadow and all your experience. But this is really very difficult work!!! It’s always easy to just leave and refuse, isn’t this avoidance? This is such an Instagram fashionable cliché, there are even books like that, and perhaps they’re not even bad, but now I see this phrase in exactly the same way as not acceptance and self-love. And you what do you think and how do you see? * Instagram is owned by Meta, which is recognized as an extremist organization in Russia.