From the author: The article was published in the Special magazine and on my website We continue the topic about the woman “over forty”, started in the last issue, but today we’ll talk about the following facets: about your personal and social space. Personal space includes what concerns you personally - your thoughts, feelings, your close circle of friends. How do you feel in this inner circle? Are you happy? What exactly do you need to feel happy? A loved one nearby, a qualitatively different relationship, or maybe new impressions from a trip abroad? They often say something like this: “I’m 40, my personal life has not worked out, and there are no real men on the planet!” Well, what to answer to this? There are other planets and even galaxies. But that’s not the point; by declaring something like this, a woman takes the position of a victim, passively waiting for everything in her life to happen by itself, both love and success. At the same time, not forgetting to blame others for your failure. Social space includes a more distant and official circle of communication. Think about it: are you satisfied with your job? Does it satisfy you financially and spiritually? To what extent have you been able to achieve your plans in your life? Have you achieved what you planned? If not, sketch out a plan on a piece of paper, even the most fantastic one, about what you can do in this regard. Dream, plan, let go of rusty restrictions. Think about what social role is most important for you now - the role of a mother, the role of a wife or your professional role. Most often, the mother’s function at this age gradually begins to fade into the background, children grow up and leave their parents’ nests. The focus is on your own self-realization. Who am I in society? What have I achieved? Sometimes, disappointment arises in the previously chosen profession and the realization comes that you want to do something completely different. There is awareness, but no action. What's stopping? First of all, there is the fear that it is too late to start something new. The second is our craving for the familiar, the stable, in the style of “a bird in the hand is better than a pie in the sky.” How to deal with this? Act! If you dream of getting a different specialty - go study, you're tired of your old job - look for new options, if you realized that you've been burdened by certain relationships for a long time - gather your courage and put an end to it. What am I talking about? About two things: firstly, learn to listen to yourself, notice your needs, secondly, having realized what exactly you want, think carefully about how to achieve your cherished goal, approach the solution of the problem creatively, maybe the task is not so difficult, as far as it seems at first glance. And then - act, not forgetting to encourage and praise yourself even for small achievements. Now a little from the area of ​​\u200b\u200benergies or a little about the importance of maintaining a certain balance between rest and activity. Remember the proverb: “Horses that are hunted are shot”? By taking on the burden of your own and not your own worries, you voluntarily turn yourself into that very cornered horse. What to do about it? Share! Try to delegate powers to your family and your colleagues to a reasonable extent, stop thinking that only you can handle these matters. Allow yourself hours and minutes of “doing nothing.” For what? Yes, to notice that it’s autumn outside, morning puddles in a crisp crust of ice, and the sun is becoming more and more timid. You will notice that your breathing will even out, the tension that has accumulated during the day will gradually subside, and the world around you will suddenly become colorful again, just shades there will be new ones!