From the author: The article was published earlier on When you see a person in a state of painful shock, you have no doubt that such a person needs help and that what is happening to him is nothing more than a defensive reaction the body to pain (in this case, physical) that it cannot bear. In essence, a trance state, or better yet, “life on automatic,” or an unconscious state, is the same thing: the body’s reaction to mental pain or, often, to a presentiment, a prediction of this pain. Not everyone is able to face deep discrepancies between their inner world (ideas about life, expectations from it and from themselves in it) and reality. Each person has his own idea, obtained experimentally, about what feelings and to what extent he is able to experience the degree of their intensity consciously. And as soon as the internal emotional picture goes “beyond what is permitted,” the “panic button” is triggered and emergency defense mechanisms are activated. When this happens too often (for example, in a situation of long-term chronic stress), these mechanisms simply stop switching off (do not have time). And since such “freezing” of protections in a constantly on state usually happens quite early - at the time of “tender age” - experience begins to tell a person that it is safer to live this way. Many people, of course, need support when they come face to face with the real world and your real feelings. However, most simply do not realize that they can bear it, they have never tested this early experience, they have no idea that deep conscious living of the feelings given by nature - all, without dividing into good and bad - makes life fuller and richer .Once upon a time I found a wonderful phrase on the Internet, I really liked it, the authorship, unfortunately, was not preserved by the World Wide Web: “It is difficult to hurt an oyster. A strong shell protects it. However, such an isolated, safe life is difficult to envy. The oyster does not know emotional stress, but it also does not know the joys of life.” To live a full life, it is enough to accept the fact that none of us is immune from troubles, and be ready to experience strong and vivid feelings. Many people need thicker, stronger “emotional skin,” but no one needs a hard shell. When we make friends, love, and gain emotional connections with the people around us, we always run the risk of being disadvantaged or offended in some way. And we can choose one of two possibilities: build a protective shell and lead the life of an oyster, or maintain some vulnerability, but live a full life. Once daring to “look life in the eyes,” a person gains greater confidence, his vitality increases, he becomes younger before our eyes . And, most importantly, he gains the right and freedom to choose how to live. This does not mean at all that the eternal “Guimplen smile” will settle on his face. No, he will be sad, angry, disgusted, delighted and disappointed, worried and surprised. But this, in essence, is Life.!