A woman is such a subtle creature that she begins to feel sorry for you just a few days before her betrayal. Kornel Makuszynski Have you heard the story about a bad husband and an attentive friend? Probably more than once? And having heard the next version, I decided to write about female infidelity. Female infidelity is not that uncommon. But it has its differences from male infidelity. French writer Etienne Rey said: “A woman gets more pleasure from cheating than a man: for him it’s not God knows what event, but for her cheating always means revenge, or passion, or sin.” So why do wives cheat? For some Cheating on women is a search for attention. Example: a young woman of thirty years old. Married for thirteen years. Two decrees in a row. She got married early to escape from the family of alcoholic parents. My husband cheated almost from the first months of marriage, which he did not hide. Humiliation of his wife became the norm for him. The woman has nowhere to go, with her parents it’s even worse. She endured and tried to be the “ideal wife.” I went to work and met HIM. She had never felt so happy in her life. They just talked for a whole year. And she realized that she had fallen in love. For others, cheating is needed to feel desired. Example: a woman of thirty-six years old. Married for three years. Her husband is five years younger than her. After giving birth, the husband began to deny his wife sex because of the imperfection of her figure: “When you have a six-pack belly, then we will have sex.” She left her husband and, in the company of friends, met an old acquaintance. They met in their youth, when the heroine was sixteen years old. And passion consumed them. And some women decide to take revenge and humiliate their husbands with the help of betrayal. Example: a woman of thirty-five years old. Married for twelve years. And all these years her husband cheated on her and beat her. This is how her father behaved in her family. At one point, her boss noticed her. She worked with him for six years, but this had never happened before. A powerful romance began. There is betrayal as a physiological need. Example: a woman of forty years old. Married for twenty years. Due to her husband's alcoholism, her sex life stopped. She found herself a young lover of twenty-seven years old. There are women who are simply bored and have nothing to do with themselves. And betrayal occurs out of boredom. Example: a twenty-eight-year-old woman. Married for ten years. Two children. Does not work. And my husband is always busy. He is building a house. He cooks food, washes clothes and takes the girls to kindergarten and school. And out of boredom, not having feelings for her husband, she finds love on the side. Like the heroine of Flaubert’s “Madame Bovary” or the heroine of Zweig’s story “Fear.” But having changed, a woman can no longer treat this as something unimportant, a minor event. (Although there are exceptions). She is faced with a choice: husband or lover. In the first example, the woman has been waiting for the fifth year for her lover to leave the family for her, but lives with her husband. The husband knows about this. He is thrown into extremes: from “come back, I’ll forgive everything,” to “I told you what you are like...” In the second example, the woman has been living with both her husband and her lover for a year, constantly comparing and choosing them. Both men know about this. In the third example, the woman left her husband for her lover. The lover divorced his wife. And our heroine is now cheating on her lover with her husband. The woman from the fourth example had no intention of getting a divorce. The relationship with her young lover lasted three years. At the end, she found herself a new one. A bored young woman left her husband for a friend. But she returned home three days later. She was not used to caring for children on her own. She and her husband live in different rooms: she is in one, and her husband and two girls are in another. How can we continue to live? You took upon yourself the responsibility to cheat on your spouse, then you have to deal with the consequences. Whether to talk about cheating or not is also up to you. And if the husband found out about the betrayal, then maybe instead of suffering from negative emotions, resentment and self-pity, he should try to look at the situation differently? See, for example, that two people are suffering in this situation. Yes, the wife who cheated on you also suffers. After all, life is more complicated than we often imagine..