A doctor I knew from the hospital contacted me. Based on a recommendation and acquaintance, a client had surgery to remove a tumor on her spine and she was completely paralyzed below the operated area, she couldn’t even urinate. There were complaints against the doctors, since before the operation everything was fine with her. An instant solution was needed. At his personal request, I came to the hospital and conducted two half-hour betta communication sessions with the client to get out of this surgical shock to her nervous system. Without touching, I ran my hand along her legs and body and invited her to track the sensation of this contact. It was her state that was transmitted to me from her and returned by me to her in the form I processed—containing, which all psychologists do when helping clients process their problematic states. And she came out of the crisis right during the second session - one leg and toes on the other began to move, and her bladder became free. I told the doctor that if further work is needed, then it will have to be paid for. But doctors considered further rehabilitation to be their competence. My colleagues and I have this constant practice, when our invisible inner work is considered to happen by itself. Like the case I described with the removal of spasticity in cerebral palsy, when the family decided that “it was a child’s paralysis, so it went away.” Why do people in difficult life situations not see these resources for processing their situation in communication with others? The fact is that they are focused on their situation and do not see or perceive their surroundings. And they are confident that everything in the world happens by itself, as it did in their early childhood. Each of us finds ourselves in life and already lives in such a hopeless childhood situation without resources. After several attempts to change the situation, we quickly become convinced that there are no resources for a way out and nowhere to get them from. But the closed door in front of us is our own stereotypical picture of the world, in which there are no exits of our own and everything happens by itself or others owe us. This is our childhood position in which we do not see ourselves and others, we do not know how to cooperate, make decisions and take responsibility for our decisions and our lives. How can we get through this wall if it exists only in our unconscious stereotypes in our head? You have to become an adult. What does it mean to be an adult? An adult: Has a mature psyche. Seeks meaning: life, his actions, his past and future. Strives to know the truth even if it is painful. Reflects, thinks, looks inside himself, tries to understand. Has a coherent image himself and others, accepts different aspects of this reality. Can withstand pain, uncertainty, troubles. Accepts differences (the other is a person who is different from me). Recognizes limitations (we are not omnipotent, we cannot influence everything). Has experienced loss and can deal with it. Takes others into account (opinions, desires). Influences others (can make decisions). He plans his life and at the same time takes risks. He can wait, he recognizes his finitude (he can delay his pleasure). Creates himself and his life. Without this resource of adulthood, other resources become invisible to us and we refuse to use them, remaining to live in front of a door that seems closed to us.