Hello! Almost 2 years ago, my life seemed to go downhill, I broke up with my loved one, got into debt, almost all the projects that I was leading decided to stop working with me. Plus, my relationship with my parents deteriorated because they tried to impose their own view of life on me, with which I did not agree, my relationship with my brother worsened, by the way, I stopped communicating with him even before everything happened. Communicate in understanding as closely as before. Now, out of all this, the relationship with my brother has only become a little better, because we partially built a dialogue, talked about who was offended by what. Relations with parents are quite dry. Otherwise, both in terms of money and in terms of relationships, it’s a complete failure. No matter what I try, nothing works. Problems with finances, work and personal life. No matter how much I analyze, I cannot understand why this happened. And where can you find the strength within yourself to finally change everything globally? Thank you in advance for your answer. Psychologist-hypnologist Alexey Rusakevich answers: Hello. I understand your feelings. You are in a state of crisis if there is a decline in several areas of your life. But it is very difficult to say the reason based on the short text that you wrote. There is an understanding that there are difficulties in relationships with parents, with a brother, with finances, with a career, with relationships. One thing I can say for sure is that if you have a protracted crisis situation and no longer have the strength, then you urgently need to see a psychologist and work with specialist. It may even be too late if you don’t have the strength. In such a situation, when there is also no joy, depression may develop, which often develops due to the fact that a person cannot go through some kind of life crisis for long enough. Image: https://clck.ru/33Hzn7In this case, go to a psychologist It’s even getting a little late, because it’s time to go to a psychotherapist. If you have apathy, loss of strength, no energy, no joy, and in general your emotions are turned off - you don’t react to anything, then this indicates depression. Depression is associated not only with psychological problems, but also with hormonal and nervous ones, that is, with problems already at the level of the body, so psychology is no longer so relevant. It is also needed, but work with the body is necessary, that is, you need to work with a psychotherapist. If this does not exist yet, then you urgently need to contact a psychologist and work with the crisis. Because when our brain cannot digest a crisis for long enough, it greatly exhausts its resources. Often the nervous system, psyche, and hormonal system become “on their knees” from long-term overexertion and it is quite difficult to raise them. In adolescence, we think that we have a long life ahead and we can worry about anything for a long time and we have enough strength for anything. This is not entirely true - our strengths have a limit and it is better not to reach it in order to quickly resolve issues in life. Because if you overwork, recovery will be long, expensive and very painful. I recommend urgently contacting a psychologist. This is the best that can be said for your situation. I will also add that if you have no strength, then perhaps it is because you are lumping problems together. Designating them as one big problem. A big elephant is not eaten whole - that means it is eaten in parts. Accordingly, it is necessary to divide the situation into parts - problem one, problem two, problem three. You need to build priorities and, depending on what worries you more and what affects the condition more strongly, deal with this issue first. Those that are less important, second, and so on. This will allow you to build a plan. As a resource for a solution, I repeat, I highly recommend working with a specialist if you cannot get out of this situation and cannot find the cause on your own for a long time. This means there is no need to wait any longer. This means that you simply cannot find a solution and cope on your own. It’s better to realize, accept and work on it.