From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert on television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, master of NLP, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, as you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia.” I decided to write this article to bring some clarity and somehow protect women from various kinds of attacks from the outside. As a sexologist, psychotherapist and psychologist, I have to work a lot both with married couples and separately, with male and female sexual problems. But there are also situations when work is associated with a shift in sexual orientation. I would like to call it that way. There are, for example, girls who prefer only girls sexually. But now my article is not about them, but about those who are quite capable of having sex with both men and women. More often they are called “bisexual.” So, I want to note that you should not be afraid of your sexual preferences. If this stresses you out too much, then you can work on the situation, as if it were a problematic condition, and try to “return” the girl to the classic version - breastfeeding. If she does not want to get rid of her sexual preferences, then the woman also has every right to do so. For example, there are situations in the family when the husband does not understand his wife. For example, in my practice as a sexologist, psychologist and psychotherapist, there was a girl who had 2 frozen pregnancies. She decided that her husband did not share her experiences enough, and went to a woman of non-traditional sexual orientation, leaving her husband. If you work with the situation as a problem, removing, for example, the same negative stories that we collect in relationships, then it is quite possible that the family would have been preserved. It’s just that here I worked only with my abandoned husband, putting his psyche in order. The ex-wife was never “ripe” to work individually. It should be taken into account that it is impossible to get into our sexual fantasies, and for example, when having sex with men, such girls often imagine sex with women. And when they ask me: “how How do you feel about this? Is this normal or not? Is this perhaps a sin? I reproach myself for this...", etc. – options are possible. I always answer that this is their personal business. They have every right to have sex with those they want and have the fantasies they want. Nowadays the attitude towards this is more tolerant not only on the part of psychologists, sexologists and psychotherapists, but also on the part of other people who are not our loved ones or relatives. But everything that relates to the area of ​​our past - beliefs received from parents, and the general background in general, then such a situation is not welcome, so here, everything is up to the choice of the person himself - either he considers it as a problem and removes addictions, or…. decides for himself what and how. And when, again, people turn to me as a psychologist, sexologist and psychotherapist, and ask: is this possible (this applies to those who have decided to change the situation), then I say that: quite. But here the following point often arises: “if I remove my fantasies, what will I get in return? A man doesn’t excite me, so what, I’ll just go on without sex?” And here a certain dilemma really arises, and most girls and women decide to stay the same, continuing to have sex with men and dreaming about women. Therefore, additional psychotherapeutic work and special techniques are required here that make it possible to form other sexual preferences. It also happens that this is a conscious choice - the girl understands that, for example, she is comfortable.