Once again about attitudes and beliefs. There is a lot of talk about them, why? Why is there so much attention to them? Attitudes, also called introjects, are the knowledge that we did not receive ourselves, but were given to us by others. Introject is the inclusion by an individual into his inner world of views, motives, attitudes, etc., perceived by him from other people. ( introjects). The term was coined in 1909 by the Hungarian psychoanalyst Sándor Ferenczi. That is, these are conclusions about the world that are made by other people. Experience gained by others. The point is not even whether they are right or wrong (although how can anything in the world be absolutely right or wrong?). The fact is that this is not our experience and not our conclusions. Sometimes they are not entirely suitable specifically for our situation, sometimes they greatly limit us and stop us from interacting (communicating) with the world. Man has always interacted with the world. Thanks to this, humanity has made its way from the caves to our times. The person was always interested and curious. Yes, sometimes it ended tragically, but it was also an experience and thanks to which conclusions were drawn. But due to the fact that a person has many attitudes (why study the world, because it can end badly?) - a person deprives himself of interaction and receiving his personal, unique experience and, accordingly, your personal conclusions. That is why introjects are considered as a psychological defense and as a way of identification with significant people (“In our family, everyone..” / “We always...”). Attitudes and introjects are not always viewed as “bad” and limiting. They become limiting precisely when they limit us from interaction and interfere with healthy adaptation. And by getting rid of precisely this kind of introjects and attitudes, we become a little freer. Our view of the world becomes a little wider. Thus, we learn to separate our “I” from others, our experience from the experience of others, and understand that our personal experience is only ours and cannot be applied to all people and to the whole world. This is the understanding that the world is different and people are different. Typically, attitudes and introjects can begin with the words: “all”, “always”, “need”, “must/must”, etc. How to work with attitudes and introjects? First of all, find them and realize that they exist. Next, you can “test your strength” by asking questions and observing the experiences of others. Also try changing "should" to "want" and see how it responds and if it works for you.