From the author: Should I take it or not? She is approaching her 100th anniversary. And her marriage is more than half a century old. There is a phrase in the lady’s arsenal that, like a spell, saved this marriage and protected the spouses from quarrels, troubles, and so on. So, what is this phrase? What is this magical and magical “formula of love”? I doubt that this instruction was written in the journals of her youth. In the then “Working Women” and “Peasant Women” texts were written for the builders of communism, whose marriage, as if behind a stone wall, was under the protection of the party organization. And yet... Where did she find these words: “I might not have seen, I might not have heard, I might not have I’m in this place.” This phrase from her mouth looks somewhat rote. It seems that the lady used the phrase often. It is probably wise not to notice any words or actions that could destroy the marriage. At first glance. And at the second... It sounds like an order to yourself: “don’t feel”, “don’t live”, “become a stone wall, deaf, blind, you weren’t standing here at all.” And like a message to your spouse: “your words are nothing to me.” don’t mean”, “I don’t see you and I don’t hear you when you say what I don’t want to hear.” How wise is it to accept only what is pleasant to accept? I don't know what to do "right". Everyone has their own truth. If the goal is to protect the marriage at any cost, this “price” is not so great, just think, to ignore unpleasant statements. “I might not have heard.” Of course she could. Then, who was the one who spoke to? To my wife or the wall? “I might not have seen.” Indeed, why notice the obvious? Denial is such a great defense. “I don’t remember, that means it didn’t happen.” Or maybe this strategy “educates” the husband? “This,” that is, dear, kind, I hear, see, know. But I don’t recognize “that kind of” rude person, I refuse to see him. Then the question is, will the man change, becoming “pleasant”, or will he go to realize his “bad” inclinations where he will be heard? It’s good that the wife will pretend not to notice anything: “I might not be in this place.” Personally, I myself get very angry if they don’t “hear” me or neglect my needs. I am leaving such a relationship. But maybe there is a “secret door” in these words? In fact, I see everything and hear everything, little by little I draw conclusions and in the end I make it clear that I heard you.” What do you think in this direction? Your Irina Panina +7 963 717 777 3Together we will find the way to your hidden opportunities!My Website