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School, class, first teacher, educational process is an important, new, difficult and serious period in a child’s life. In elementary school, from the first grade and the first teacher, the child’s attitude towards learning in general, school and the class as a team, self-esteem and motivation are formed. Often, the problems that a child has to face at the very beginning of the educational process can become subjectively insurmountable, a serious obstacle to the child’s personal development and successful studies. If your child is in no hurry to share his successes and achievements at school, he answers questions reluctantly, in monosyllables, withdrawn, speaks without enthusiasm about school matters, if he doesn’t want to go to school, asks to leave him at home, invents an illness for himself, plays truant, says that no one is friends with him, or that he himself does not want to be friends with anyone - this is a serious reason to worry, go to school and find out the reason for this behavior. In order for the child to successfully adapt, make progress and enjoy the educational process, the joint efforts of the class teacher, school psychologist and parents are directed. This is ideal. In practice, it is often different. It is extremely important for children that their parents take school, study seriously, and respect the teacher and his work. If parents forget to take an interest in their child’s successes or help when difficulties arise, or speak unauthoritatively about the teacher, there is no reason to expect and demand a serious and responsible attitude of the child to the educational process, interest in the eyes, desire to learn and go to school in general. So, unknowingly, parents, out of their busyness or ignorance, can provoke a conflict between the child and the school. The school is the real school of life. In addition to secondary education, it is within the school walls that we gain an understanding of ourselves and others, develop teamwork skills, develop an understanding of unwritten laws and behavior in society, make mistakes, learn to understand and correct them. It is useful for children to face difficulties in order to successfully overcome them and become more confident in their abilities and become stronger. But still there are situations that are very complex and ambiguous, and sometimes simply neglected. It is in them that the elders are called upon to help the child understand and learn a useful lesson. If such situations arise in primary school, then it is much more difficult for the child to find the most effective way to resolve them on his own, then the participation of parents is simply necessary and cannot be replaced by anything else. Sometimes the teacher does not delve into or simply does not have time to understand the essence of the children’s conflict and establish justice between the children. Often situations are simply “smoothed out”: “we are all friends”, “change is only given in the store”, “come on, repeat: make peace, make peace and don’t fight anymore.” And at this time, it is important for children to get an assessment of who is right and who is wrong, so that justice will prevail. After all, in their children's team, new children's laws and rules are constantly being developed, changing, and emerging, on the basis of which the children build relationships with classmates. Which will carry over into adulthood. If the child is unable to stand up for himself, they start making fun of him, they don’t want to sit at the same desk with him, etc. This hurts the child’s soul very painfully and can cause serious psychological trauma. That is why the teacher is required to timely correct these unwritten laws and have a wise pedagogical approach. Sometimes a conflict arises between the teacher and the student. And even if a child tries to defend his point of view or position, the teacher still has more resources to insist on his own. Because of this, the child’s internal state is very disharmonious, which can affect his academic performance, behavior with classmates, parents, the formation of closed, aggressive or, on the contrary, passive and indifferent behavior patterns. It happens that a conversation with a teacher cannotresolve the conflict that has arisen, and often parents are simply afraid of harming their child and decide to remain silent. Be sure to discuss the problem with your child, how he sees this situation and what would be better for him. In this case, parents should think about changing a school or class for their child, no matter what additional trouble this may cause. If such a situation arises, it is better to “take the child out” of the unconstructive conflict, protect him, transfer him to another school - it will take a little time and the solution to this problem will be within his reach. It is very important that the baby maintains a positive attitude towards himself and faith in the love and support of his parents. Remember that your child is most important to you! No one is immune from mistakes and wrong actions, especially children. In such cases, parents need to very seriously analyze what happened and help the child. It is very important for a child to be understood and, no matter what happens, to receive the support of loved ones, and for parents to fairly assess the situation and help their child. Here are some recommendations on what to pay attention to if you still have to change classes, schools and teachers. Adults often change finding a place to work or live is difficult, mentally frightening and exhausting. For children, changes, although desired and long-awaited, besides the mystery and joy of anticipation of something wonderful, bring excitement and anxiety: who will I be friends with? who will be my teacher? Will I like the new team, will he like me? All the child’s experiences are absolutely justified and require serious consideration and consideration. Especially if the previous experience was not very successful. Even if it seems to you that the future does not cause any worries in your child, it is still worth talking about the future, asking his opinion about the future, what he likes, what he doesn’t, what he is looking forward to more, and what perhaps frightens or confuses…. prepare him for upcoming events, develop an action plan. It is very important to take seriously the choice of a new school, class and teacher. In the lower grades, the teacher probably plays the most important role. After all, it is she who creates the children’s team, shapes the climate, and ensures discipline. It depends on her whether the children will be friends with each other, whether the school can become a second home for them, a place where they can open up, express themselves, learn a lot of new and interesting things, cultivate qualities that will help them be successful in secondary and in high school, for example, discipline, responsibility, a sincere desire to learn, self-confidence, etc. Information about teachers and classes is best provided by reviews of parents and children themselves. It is advisable to talk with two or three parallel teachers, come to them together with your student, and then exchange impressions with him and decide which teacher you will go to in class. Come to school during recess and you will have a wonderful opportunity to immerse yourself in the school atmosphere, remember your school childhood and priorities. Trust your inner feelings, pay attention to the interaction between the children and the teacher - whether the kids are in a hurry to share news or successes, show off their completed drawing or work, or complain and snitch on their classmates. This can be a serious argument when choosing a class and teacher. In a conversation with a teacher, it is important to find out what her basic requirements are, what is needed for the educational process, what is the daily routine at school (lessons, breaks, lunches, etc.). Tell us about her new student, what he is interested in, which subjects he likes more, which ones less, what works and what doesn’t work yet. Say directly that you are worried about how your child will adapt to the new team, that you will help and support him in every possible way, ask for advice on how best to prepare your child for studying in a new class. It is better if the parents’ choice is not based on elite schools and strong classes, but for the teacher and the class, where the child can adapt and perform at his best. New