Most married couples learn to interact with each other only after marriage. One of the simplest and most logical ways to learn is to take a script from your parents' family. But quite often the family is incomplete, and even if it is complete, then you can only learn “bad” things that are not necessary. Today, there is no such social institution in our society that would take on such a mission. When we turn to myths and fairy tales, we find that they have almost no answers to the simplest questions that arise in the process of creating a happy family. Most fairy tales end with a wedding, but what happens next? Then they lived, lived and made good. There are no or almost no fairy tales that would reveal the wisdom of family life. Judging by historical facts, before Christianity, these traditions were transmitted orally. From the point of view of life, everything that the heroes do, perform feats, undergo trials, all this is to find a family. It is logical that myths and fairy tales clearly make it clear that only in marriage a man and a woman can find happiness. Every nation had, and, in fact, still has an approximate set of rules and family traditions. Thus, the Slavic peoples had a wonderful book in use - “Domostroy”. With this word, many people have an image of a tyrant head of the family and unhappy household members. After reading this essay, an unequivocal conclusion arises, which was made before us. To discover something new, read old books diligently. I recommend all my colleagues to get to know him. I am sure that much of this work can be safely used in practical advisory work in family counseling. In my short essay I wanted to draw attention to the absence in modern publications of work that is simple in terminology and functional on relationships in marriage. I also wanted to know the opinion of my colleagues on this issue..