Finally, the time has come when the “double standard” in sexual relations, implying that men are allowed much more than women, began to gradually become obsolete. For example, many modern women no longer agree to live without orgasm . But, unfortunately, the desire to reach the highest point of pleasure often remains a pipe dream for them. Why does it happen that many 30-35 year old women, whose peak sexual activity occurs at this age, have experienced three and a half lackluster orgasms in their lives? And women over 50 timidly say that they don’t really know what it is? It's time to ask questions: who is to blame? and what to do? Some blame men for this, some blame women, forgetting that sex (not counting certain forms of its manifestation) is a partner action. Therefore, the answer is both. Speaking about the problem of the lack of female orgasm, in my opinion, first of all it is worth mentioning women’s fears and the presence of trust in their partner. Unfortunately, sex life for many women, especially those who are just entering into it, is the source of many fears. FEAR of getting pregnant, losing control, contracting sexually transmitted diseases, being insulted, humiliated and abandoned sharply inhibit female sexuality. To tell the truth, fears are not so easy to deal with, but often the condition is aggravated by a woman’s DISTRUST in a man. In this regard, I would like to remind women of their intuition, which must be constantly listened to. If after some time in an intimate relationship (the first sexual intercourse, the period of getting used to a partner does not count) you cannot relax during sex and still feel tension, you should think: “why can’t I give myself to this person” (in a figurative sense ). Maybe you are blinded by something external (wit, courtship) and this prevents you from understanding that he is not your prince at all. Also, the worst enemies of a female orgasm are resentment and anger towards a man. This is especially true in married couples. When the romantic rapture of the husband is replaced by dissatisfaction with his ways of making money, his relationship with his beloved mother, his sluggish actions in terms of buying an apartment and his inability to quickly resolve everyday problems. Well, what can I say, you should have looked at who you married. The female orgasm is very sensitive to male stinginess, rudeness, irresponsibility, unprincipledness, and most importantly to male indifference. If a woman does not feel desired, her chances of having an orgasm are reduced to zero. After all, let’s be honest, men often initiate sex solely to fulfill their physiological needs. It is in such situations that women feel “used.” Here, as you understand, there is no time for orgasm. In reaching the highest point of pleasure, the opinion that a man should be the initiator of intimate relationships, and a woman should obey him, can also hinder in many ways. Yes, female sexuality undoubtedly depends on men and their manifestations, but you still need to learn to develop sensuality and sexual desire in yourself. There is good literature for this (for example, Lady Chatterley's Lover by David Lawrence) and films with erotic content (what's wrong with Basic Instinct or Seduction?!). If there is neither one nor the other, our fantasies are always with us - sexual, of course. You can tell men about them without a twinge of conscience. Moreover, many of them like it. The biggest, if not disastrous, mistake of many women on the way to achieving orgasm is its simulation. This is something that can become a big obstacle to open relationships and opportunities for new sexual exploration. This misleads men. Of course, women do this not out of harm, but exclusively from noble motives, the purpose of which is not to hurt men’s pride. Is this justified? It may be justified in some cases. But every time it will be more and more difficult to deceive yourself. In place!