It is a common opinion that psychotherapy is about solving all your problems, becoming a completely autonomous “developed” person. I admit that at the dawn of my psychological activity I myself unconsciously held similar views. After all, achieving results and solving problems is quite in the style of a modern person. We have the idea that problems need to be dealt with. And under the pressure of this idea, we either strive to actually deal with the problem, or we try to get away from this necessity. But the problem is not a fact, but our assessment and attitude towards the fact. Anything can be considered a problem: too sociable, too silent, too average. Any quality or feature can be identified as a problem and begin to “solve”. Or don’t decide and get bogged down with thoughts that I’m somehow different. Of course, the point is NOT to stop assessing everything as a problem in general, but to look deeper. Ask questions: why is this a problem for me and what lies behind it? Is this my problem or do others see this as a problem? And often, seeing where the “roots grow” is more important and valuable than actually “solving the problem.” Again, I do not deny the importance of self-development and working on changes. But it is important to understand where your desire to change comes from: is it an internal desire for development or externally imposed frameworks and standards into which we are trying to squeeze ourselves? Now for me psychotherapy is more about improving the quality of life. First of all, internal: how much we are in contact with ourselves and how comfortable we are with being who we are, how much we know ourselves in general and allow ourselves to be real, as we really are. After all, it is with our attitude towards ourselves that our attitude towards others and the world as a whole begins. And internal changes often “magically” lead to external improvements. The world has not essentially changed, our perception and attitude are changing. As a result, our behavior, reactions and decisions change. Sometimes (I emphasize that this is not always the case) nothing even needs to change around you. After all, everything is fine, but we thought there was a problem. What do you think about this view of psychotherapy??