Spoiler title Expanding spoiler text There is an opinion in society that a normal man does not need a psychologist. If you are a real man, you thought for yourself, decided and did, why bother and whine to a stranger about your problems. If you need help, call a friend, have a drink at a bar, talk, and there are no problems. Or do problems still remain? In most cases, a friend or relative is able to support, sympathize, and share their experience, but this is a dialogue at the same level and in the same zone of perception of the problem within which this problem arose. A customized solution for your specific situation is unique, so only you can find the answer. However, finding the right path is complicated by the dead end in which you find yourself due to a monotonous view of the issue. If we touch on the topic of relationships, then you may be captive of attitudes or stereotypes, for example, “all women only want money”, “most women are stupid”, “all they want to limit my freedom and drag me into marriage,” “there are no normal women at all,” and so on. Standard schemes for solving love problems: find a new relationship or one-time connections, so as not to think about the past, not to feel negative emotions. You can also devote all your time to sports, work, hobbies, continue to distract yourself and not look at the essence of the problem, which remains without a solution, blooming with new colors in every next experience of interaction with a woman. The entire culture since the beginning of the world has been shouting “a man can’t be weak”, “get up and be patient, boys don’t cry”, “cry like a girl”, maybe you have personal childhood memories of such advice. It’s sad that, trying for a long time to be strong, unable to withstand the intensity of emotions, men die of heart attacks in the prime of life. When you experience emotions that are ashamed/scary/unbearable to feel and that you want to get rid of, they contain your main resource for solving the problem. The main task is to recognize the emotion, not to drown it out, but to live in the present, then find the source of its occurrence and deal with it. What can a psychologist give a man? First of all, a safe space that no one will ever know about, because even the strongest man sometimes you need support, and real strength lies in the wisdom to find a way out, and not bang your head against the wall. In the space of an individual consultation with a psychologist there will be no condemning, evaluating or teaching words; here you can be your true self, relax and discover your unique emotional experience. In joint work, you will be able to find out what is “good” and “bad” for you personally, and how you can begin to act so that it is “good” as often as possible. My personal experience of working with men in psychotherapy indicates that, having figured out in yourself and your expectations, the quality of communication with the opposite sex increases incredibly and communication issues in general move to a new level. You can find out more about the consultation by writing in PM or telegram @nbootny.