It happens so often now that parents like to hang a label on their child, at least one, but let it hang. The child was embarrassed to ask something from another child, and he immediately (well, maybe not immediately), becomes shy: “Why are you so shy?” And then even later: “Yes, no, he can’t, he’s shy.” The kid didn’t put away his toys - he’s a slob, he didn’t go take pictures with the tiger - he’s a coward, he didn’t give his brother candy - he’s a greedy... Well, it seems logical , if you call a child greedy, he will not want to be greedy and will correct himself. But in reality the opposite happens. Firstly, the child loves you, believes you, if you say that he is like this, then it is so. And the child thinks how bad I am and they don’t like me like that. And here it is not the growth of the individual that will take place, but the struggle for the love of parents against the background of non-acceptance of oneself, low self-esteem, preoccupation with the opinion of others, and the attitude towards oneself will remain bad. And secondly, if some quality is attributed to the child, and not to his action, then this will most likely cause shame, but will change little in his actions and behavior. And the child will think that the problem is in himself, that there is something wrong with him. You yourself think about what is easier to change - yourself, your character, your personality and be someone else, or your behavior, your actions, your skills and abilities? Yes, over time he will learn to be socially acceptable, but this quality - the label will stick to him forever, inside he will be like that - greedy, slob, shy... What to do? How to help your child be better? To begin with, believe that your baby is good just the way he is. He may do something bad, make a mistake somewhere, fail to cope with feelings, but he does this not because he is like that himself, but because in this situation he simply cannot do anything differently! And it’s normal to experience embarrassment in some situations, we are adults and sometimes we ourselves can be embarrassed to do something. And it's normal to be afraid of something. It’s normal not to share your things, that’s why they’re yours, you can decide for yourself whether to share or not. And it’s very important to help a child grow up to be himself, and not someone who pleases others. And in difficult situations for a child, he does not need a kick, but support, understanding, and care. Say: “It’s normal what you feel now. I myself am sometimes embarrassed to make acquaintances”; “Nothing that didn’t work out, maybe it will work out next time, you’re still just learning how to do it”; “I understand you, sometimes it’s so difficult to cope with feelings”; “Sometimes I don’t want to share with anyone, I understand you. You can choose for yourself whether to share or not.” Well, if some quality has stuck and become a character trait, then maybe you can turn it into a virtue and not a disadvantage? For example: - Not stubborn, but persistent; - Not shy, but cautious; - Not cowardly, but cautious; - Not slow, but thorough; - Not greedy, but thrifty; - Not curious, but inquisitive; - Not absent-minded, but dreamy;- Not annoying, but sociable; - Not touchy, but deeply feeling...What do you think? You can continue the series?