If you have heard the phrase that revenge is a dish best served cold, then this is not always the case. Usually and often they take revenge “hot on the heels” until the hurricane of emotions disappears behind the horizon of life’s passions. In general, jealousy, resentment and anger are mixed into such a dangerous smoothie, which leads to a loss of control and the ability to think rationally. Both women and men can take revenge on their exes. Why are they taking revenge? Usually for cheating or leaving for another partner; The avenger equates both cases with betrayal. Which is probably quite justified on his part and against the backdrop of the feelings he is experiencing. But, is it fair to take revenge in such situations? This probably needs to be sorted out. What's really going on? Let's take the most common example. The partner left for someone else, but the feelings for him remained, but at the same time, he felt good, but the one from whom they left felt bad. And the one who feels bad cannot calmly survive the situation that the ex feels good and revenge begins, as certain actions of a negative nature aimed at worsening the emotional state of the ex. Surveillance begins, calls and messages at night, threats of various kinds, insults, promises to “spoil " and so on. After each episode of such actions, a strong emotional trace remains, leading to a continuous line of feelings for a partner who has already left and become part of the past. And this line becomes an endless straight line. Will a person be able to start a new life in this way? I doubt. Because to start a new life, you need to say goodbye to the attributes of your past life, forget this past. And when a person takes revenge, is he close to forgetting, letting go, realizing? There is also a second side to this coin. You will in no way take revenge on your ex-partner, but on the contrary, raise his self-esteem a little. The relationship is over, but people are still crazy about him or her! Well, who will be worse off from this? Well, after all, there is one option for revenge. Learn to be happy without the person who left, without the person who cheated on you. Show, first of all, to yourself that your world has not narrowed down to the boundaries of one person, in addition to the one who has already left you. Take care of yourself. Sabirov Salavat. My Telegram channel: #Your_personal_psychologist