Lately I often hear from people how difficult it is, through force, with a feeling of being forced to go to work. To a job you don't like. Moreover, it is not slackers who are talking about this, but completely responsible and hardworking people who would happily continue to work in their previous place if there were adequate conditions there (often their situation can be described with the phrase “I would be happy to serve, but it’s sickening to be served”). What can happen? help a person in such a situation? Does he need to endure, overcome himself, force him to do what he doesn’t want, or does he need to make up his mind and leave this hateful place? On the one hand, there is obligation (to his family, team), the force of habit, the material side of the issue, whatever stability, etc. All this also has a certain meaning in a person’s life. On the other hand, the feeling that you do not belong to yourself does not go away, and life passes you by. That it's time to change something. And there is also a dream that one day life will begin again, but now real, real life. But this will happen later: in a year, in ten years, in never... In his book “How I became myself. Memoirs" Irwin Yalom appeals to readers to strive for a life free of regrets. To such a life that, having lived it, a person leaves in his memory memories of the opportunities used (even those that were not completely successful), and not regrets about the opportunities missed. Maybe this is the recipe? If a person realizes that his work gives him nothing but bitterness from wasted time, then he should honestly admit that he is living wrong. It is wrong precisely in relation to oneself, one’s life. And that this time will never return to him, which someday, most likely, he will regret. Moreover, this applies, by and large, not only to work, but also to everything else in his life: love and friendship, interests and hobbies, etc. If he realizes that he did what his heart told him to do, then he has nothing particularly to regret. Even if everything didn’t turn out exactly the way he wanted. Perhaps this is what is called “living according to a dream.” The most frightening, but also the most wonderful thing that can happen to a person. PS I provide psychological assistance in the format of online counseling. Email for communication: [email protected]