From the author: Illness is a way to get something that you cannot get without illness. Some psychotherapists believe that almost all diseases have a psychological cause. But classical medicine officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is the leading one. They are classified as the “Chicago Seven”. Illness arises as a way to satisfy needs that, as it happens, cannot be satisfied in any other way. So what does illness allow? Illness is a way to get something that you cannot get without illness. Some psychotherapists They believe that almost all diseases have a psychological cause. But classical medicine officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is the leading one. They are classified as the “Chicago Seven.” Illness arises as a way to satisfy needs that, as it happens, cannot be satisfied in any other way. So what does the disease allow?1. Take care of yourself without feeling guilty. Medicines, all kinds of care products, expensive tests, procedures, examinations - all this is provided to you, simply because you are sick. Try spending the same amount on the services of a stylist or a massage course. For several generations of women, this is unacceptable. There is always something for which money is needed.2. The right to rest The paradox is that most modern women, even having become freelancers or having a free schedule, still live by the principle that says: “A woman has only two cases when she can do nothing - pregnancy or illness.” And that’s it. our system is built on this principle. A child cannot not go to school if he does not want to. There is only one reason why he can miss school: illness. Well, it’s not absurd, is it?!3. The right to be cared for by loved ones The opportunity to feel like a woman who is cared for. Somehow it is not customary for us to take care of the “strong, smart and successful,” especially those who can take care of themselves. “Take the tug, don’t say that not hefty.” Illness gives you the right to receive this care and tenderness. If loved ones continue to ignore even these unambiguous messages for help, then the disease will progress, and at some point these requests will have to be heard. Duty in the intensive care ward will be provided.4. Attention from loved ones and friends Illness is a way to feel special and worthy of attention. They discuss you, they talk about you. You become the “topic of the day.” And the more twisted and complex the disease, the more “oohs and aahs.” 5. Respect A person enduring terrible suffering, along with pity and sympathy, even with the thoughts: “Lord, God forbid this should happen to me...” evokes awe and respect. If for some reason what you are doing at the moment does not evoke respect (primarily from yourself), then a serious illness will give this respect. And no one canceled the desire to feel like a “hero”.6. The possibility of not deciding what needs to be decided When a child becomes seriously ill, the idea of ​​divorce will have to be postponed. Your own severe illness will force you to postpone new projects and change your occupation. Caring for a loved one for many years is a good reason not to worry about personal life and career issues.7. The ability to pause, take your time, listen to yourself. When you are ill, life slows down sharply, and what was previously ignored and unnoticed comes to the fore. Every breath you take, every step you take becomes important. 8. “The last will of a dying person” It is customary to listen to the wishes of a sick person, and having fallen ill, you can finally force your husband to fix the taps and reattach the falling off handles on the door. Not to mention other more global requests.9. See the world from the other side Illness allows you to enter another reality. If you've ever spent several hours looking at the folds of fabric on a lampshade, or looking at the figures of strange animals in the cracks in the ceiling, you know what I mean. When, the only thing you can.