Do you feel that before doing something you seek approval, evaluation or opinions of other people around you? This may happen frequently. And the more often, the more dependent you are. It may already seem to you that you don’t belong to yourself at all... Everyone probably knows the socio-psychological experiment where it was clearly shown how great the influence of the group’s opinion is on one person. In the experiment, the group was presented with five photographs of different people. The group agreed among themselves that in the second and fifth photographs it was the same person and only one subject from the group did not know about the agreement. After the whole group said that the second and fifth, in their opinion, this is the same man, the last girl agreed. Although at first it seemed that she doubted that this was so. But if even one person said that this is not so and that all the people in the photographs are different, she probably might not agree with the others, since there is some support. In our time, I have noticed such a trend. For example, in “mom’s chats” there is a kindergarten, school, clubs, etc. One will suggest something, about half (approximately) will “catch up” agreeing “yes, yes, we’ll do just that,” and there is also the second half of the “silent ones” who do not want to stand out . Well, what if they “gobble it up”? Surely this can happen? Just ATTENTION! write to one person that he doesn’t want to do that, he doesn’t like it, then the other half of the “silent people” respond and also begin to express their opinion, but those who remain silent will still like it. Why is this happening? Someone might say that this is some kind of “suffering feeling”; don’t stand out, otherwise society won’t accept it. Maybe there is something in this. Since many people tend to overthink (a fairly common problem among clients) someone else’s opinion or, well, they will say this and that about me, etc. Well, with “What if?” This is a separate issue altogether. It’s all about the desire to fit in with others. Fear of being rejected, not accepted. And finally, you can test yourself for dependence on other people's opinions: Are you afraid to express your opinion? Are you afraid of offending others? Do you often consult with others before making a decision? Do you think through the reaction of others to your words , behavior? Do you allow yourself to be “stuck on”? Is it difficult for you to refuse significant people? Do you think you are comfortable with the people around you? Do you often think that someone thinks badly of you? At the same time, experiencing discomfort? Do you often have a feeling of your own insignificance, powerlessness? 10. When you react positively to praise, do you not believe in your heart that this is really so? How many “Yes” did you get??