Until the age of six, a child develops a life position that speaks about how he perceives himself and the world around him. In order for him to form a positive opinion about himself and about people, i.e. the attitude that he is good and others are good, he should receive positive feedback instead of criticism. What is positive feedback and how is it different from regular praise? The fact is that when we simply praise a child and say “well done”, this is not very informative for him and does not motivate him to achieve other achievements. Positive feedback is a detailed statement about an action and subsequent result with a positive emotional connotation. For example, you noticed that today your child wanted to help you wipe the dust. If you continue to want him to help you around the house, you shouldn’t take the rag from his hands and say: “Give it here, don’t bother me, I’ll do better...” It doesn’t matter that the rag is dirty or poorly wrung out and leaves streaks. The main thing is that he is willing to take part in cleaning the house. Therefore, his behavior should definitely be noted: - How great that you decided to help me! This is a great idea! I’m so pleased with this! And then you can offer to teach them how to wring out a rag or practice other skills. Sometimes, of course, a child does something that makes it quite difficult to give positive feedback to his actions. But probably. For example, plates of food fly off the table: - How quickly you finished lunch! Such an original solution came to your mind! And the floor has never been so picturesque! Why is it necessary to give positive feedback? The fact is that both a negative reaction from adults to a child’s action and a positive one strengthen the behavior. This means that if you scold your child for breaking a cup, then next time he will break plates. It is better not to focus attention on the child’s unwanted behavior at all. If it is not reinforced, then the child will lose interest in these actions. If you still make critical statements about your child, then for every two such remarks per day there should be 7 positive statements! In general, behind every action a child has a need. To understand why he needs this, you need to ask him about it and ask so-called open questions that do not imply a “yes” or “no” answer, for example: - Why are you doing this? (Not “why”, there is a hidden accusation here, but a thousand reasons can be found). - What does this give you? - Why is this so important to you? - Is this the only way you can get it? - How can I do it differently? For example, you go with your daughter to the toy department, and she asks to buy her a doll. You can either buy or refuse, or you can explore her needs: - What do you need this doll for? - She’s wearing a beautiful dress. Yeah. Now you know that your daughter liked the dress. Continue: What do you think is needed for your doll to have such a dress? - Sew. - What do you need to sew a dress? - Threads, a needle, a rag. - Yes, that’s right! The dress is made from fabric. Would you like to sew a dress for a doll yourself? - Yes! As a result, you and your daughter can sew a new dress for the doll, have fun with her, and she will acquire new skills.