Everyone should be a little shy. A normal level of shyness makes a person more acceptable in communication and gives him a charm that “people without complexes” do not have. But just how shy are you, I wonder? Test “Shy Almost” Answer the questions “yes” or “no”. Block A1. If my outfit at a party is very different from what everyone else is wearing, I will feel awkward.2. It will be unpleasant for me if someone wants to read my diary or personal correspondence.3. It is difficult for me to decide to invite someone to dinner because I am afraid of hearing a refusal.4. If I am invited to take part in an unfamiliar game, I will most likely refuse.5. If I am late for a meeting, I will not dare to enter the room because the eyes of everyone present will be directed at me.6. When speaking in front of an audience, I will not be able to take my eyes off the previously prepared text, even if I am perfectly familiar with the topic of the report.7. In the gym or at dances, I usually stand modestly against the wall, embarrassed by my own slowness.8. I avoid telling jokes or funny stories. Noticing that they are listening to me attentively, I usually become embarrassed and lose the thread of the story. Block B9. When I'm angry with someone, I always let him know it.10. It gives me pleasure to appear in public places wearing new fashionable clothes.11. I take part in competitions with displeasure, regardless of my level of preparation.12. If after the lecture something is still unclear, I will ask the teacher to explain it again.13. On the beach or at the pool, I don’t have the slightest embarrassment in wearing a swimsuit.14. When in a dance class or at a sports club the coach chooses a partner to demonstrate an exercise, I always hope that he will pay attention to me.15. I enjoy hearing feedback from others about my work.16. Having become the object of a joke, I will always laugh along with everyone and not be offended at all. Count the number of positive answers from block A and negative ones from block B. Add up the resulting numbers - this is an indicator of the level of your shyness. From 14 to 16. You are terribly shy. You pay too much attention to what others think about your appearance, figure, intelligence, or ability to communicate with people. It's time to become more independent and learn to defend your own opinion! From 10 to 13. The opinions of others are important to you, and sometimes such dependence can cause trouble. You should learn to feel more relaxed, and then you will get rid of the fear of not being recognized by society. From 7 to 9. Shyness is one of your character traits, but you cope with it successfully. Look through the list of questions to determine your most vulnerable place: intelligence (answers “yes” to 2 and 6; “no” to 12 and 15), appearance (“yes” to 1 and 5; “no” to 10 and 13), social status (“yes” on 3 and 8; “no” on 9 and 16) or sports form (“yes” on 4 and 7; “no” on 11 and 14). From 3 to 6. In life you follow your own path while taking into account the opinions of others. Optimal balance! From 0 to 2. The opinions of others about your person do not interest you at all. You swim your own course, but in relation to others you are too cold and indifferent. A little attention to people will make your life easier and more interesting. Shyness (shyness, timidity) is not an innate, but an acquired character trait. Shyness affects, first of all, impressionable, sensitive people, introverts (people who turn inward). Most often, shyness begins to manifest itself in preschool childhood. Parents can take her for both seriousness and lack of a sense of humor. In fact, it is really difficult for a shy child to force himself to smile, come up to meet or say hello to someone he already knows. Such children do not know how to start a conversation, so they prefer to remain silent or hide behind their mother’s back. Shyness is a complex, complex condition that manifests itself in a variety of forms. It may be mild discomfort,and inexplicable fear, and even deep neurosis. A shy person considers himself less attractive, less intelligent, weaker, that is, he perceives himself as unpopular and uninteresting. At the same time, a shy person’s own standards are unrealistically high and he himself acts as his own worst critic-analyst. Shyness is most common among schoolchildren, but this does not mean that only children are susceptible to it. A significant part of the adult population also suffers from it and cannot get rid of shyness throughout their lives. This is a very common phenomenon in our society. The appearance of shyness is influenced by many factors, but mainly family ones. Anxious - suspicious parents, the lack of a stabilizing influence of the father on the child, a depressive attitude in the family, excessive guardianship of the child, the common phrase of parents: “What will others say about you?” .... The sooner the parents think and begin to act, the greater the likelihood of protecting the child from formation anxious and suspicious character traits and raise a self-confident person. If your child is tormented by fears or anxiety and he suffers from this, if shyness prevents the child from making contact with peers, studying normally, performing at competitions and children’s concerts, then this means that shyness develops into a big problem. The child cannot overcome the fear of asking for help. And it is necessary to solve such a problem as soon as possible. If parental and psychological assistance is provided in preschool and primary school age, you can count on a tangible effect in preventing the development of shyness as a character trait. Help your child gain self-confidence and learn assertive behavior skills. Start now: Talk to your child about your feelings (thereby teaching him to talk about his own). Become an attentive listener. Show love to your child, hug, comfort, forgive, praise... Let the child know that you value him because he is. Increase the child's self-esteem. Take an interest in his opinion about what is happening, express respect for the child’s right to his point of view. Strengthen the child’s confidence in his abilities. Encourage expressions of independence, show that you value effort, and not just the result. Help your child achieve mastery in some activity that he especially likes. Teach your child to be calm about his mistakes, from which everyone learns and from which no one is immune. Become a friend to the child: let the child feel that if he shares his difficulties with you , fears, you will not be ridiculed, rejected, left alone, punished, and together you can cope with any problem. A child who has overcome painful shyness will discover a new world, feel the taste of life and will be successful and happy. For adults, shy, timid people. Shyness can be overcome, but it requires conscious effort and daily work on yourself. And so: 1. Sports You can start with sports or physical education. From physical activity, our body will begin to produce testosterone at an increased rate, which is the main enemy of shyness. 2. Victory. Start remembering. You should start by making a list of all your victories, starting from childhood. Any victories, small or big. The main thing is that you truly consider each of the items on the list to be your victory, which allows you to be proud of yourself and experience joy. After printing the list, hang it in a visible place, re-read it daily and add your new victories to it. Play with the list: when you record a new one, delete one of those that was already there. In a couple of weeks you will begin to feel like a winner.3. Masks Come up with a new personality mask for yourself: a mask of a leader, a mask of a tough hooligan, a mask of a biker, a businessman, a hip-hopper, an arrogant neighbor, etc. Feel free to create a new identity for yourself - believe in yourself as you would like to be..