I used to often catch myself thinking that I wanted to know something for sure. For example, when starting a project, I needed to be sure that it would be successful. Or, having chosen a pair of shoes, I won’t come across the shoes of my dreams in a nearby boutique (and by the way, I’m not just talking about shoes). Or if I am a good and valuable employee, then I will not face layoffs or dismissal. As if some childish part of me believed that if I was a good and obedient girl, then the good fairy would definitely appear and turn the pumpkin into a carriage and give me a couple glass slippers. I deserve it. Somewhere in another part of my soul, I apparently suspected that the fairy might not appear. And this increased my anxiety - what if all the work was in vain, and I would remain a poor dirty little thing, satisfying the tyrant whims of my stepmother. Now, listening to my clients and friends, I understand that I am not alone in my desires. I see this in people's desire to turn to Tarot or astrology, to books about 100% success in relationships or business. I also see this in the expectations of clients, which are not always voiced, but can be felt internally by me: that I, as a psychologist, are expected to receive a guaranteed result when they come to see me. It’s better not later than a month, and even better – after the first session. Well, how could it be otherwise? Popular trainings promise that you will definitely get married or receive an income of 100 thousand rubles. They also guarantee to return the money if there is no result after all the manipulations carried out (although you will still have to work hard to prove that you really acted strictly according to the instructions). Alas... life does not give guarantees. Or they're Murphy's Law, where a 60-day warranty means the product will fall apart on the 61st day. I would like to believe in some kind of global justice, which must definitely triumph, but this often does not happen. And, apparently, this has its own meaning: learn to be in a state of uncertainty, suspension. And just learn to be, accepting life in all its manifestations, extracting gold from prima materia, i.e. finding value in difficult situations. In the end, we don't know what experiences are actually best for us. Sometimes it’s worth loosening control and stopping trying to fit the situation to the standards invented by our mind - it knows too little about our purpose.