From the author: translation from the English site of a former client of a certain therapist In translation, the term Psychotherapist is used for all cases - psychologist, psychiatrist, priest, coach, health worker, spiritual leader, training leader, etc. And the term (psycho)therapy for all cases (training, treatment, etc.). If any of the following are present in your relationship with your therapist, there is reason to think about addiction. Work Points - The therapist offered me free sessions or reduced the cost of sessions as a favor to me - Because he reduced the cost, he expects me to bring for him travel to sessions or provide some other service in exchange for his psychotherapeutic services. - Often sessions last for half an hour or longer than the set time. - I am usually his last client of the day. - During our sessions there is usually no one else (in building, etc.) - The psychotherapist makes me wait a long time. - I owe him more than a thousand dollars. - I often don’t know how long the session will last. Sometimes they last 20 minutes, sometimes an hour and a half. - The therapist often talks on the phone during our sessions. - If the therapist is hungry, we go to a restaurant together during our sessions. Dependency, isolation and substitution of goals - The therapist told me to end the relationship with the most important people in my life and I don't understand why. Important people and relationships may include father, mother, siblings, partner or spouse, social group, religious activities, treatment groups, close friends, political groups, 12 Step (AA) program, and others. - The therapist insists that I called him often, even when I didn’t need it.- The psychotherapist tells me what he does for personal growth, and wants me to do the same.[/url]- The psychotherapist advises me to quit school/university/educational institution. - The psychotherapist thinks that my plans to change jobs or go to school are a bad idea. - The psychotherapist offers me free sessions if suddenly I don’t have the money to visit him, even if we are talking about long-term therapy. - The psychotherapist gave me his used clothes.- The therapist tells me what to wear and how to style my hair. The therapist demands that I not tell anyone about my therapy. I have said several times that I would like to see another therapist for consultation about my therapy, but my therapist dissuades me. The psychotherapist provides me with great support, such as coming to my home when I have a crisis situation, often calling me to find out how I am doing. In critical situations, this support is even greater. - With this psychotherapist, I feel as if I have found the support and understanding that I have been looking for all my life. - The psychotherapist often reminds me that he is the only person in my life who truly understands me and who knows , which is good for me. Therapy Process - The therapist talks to me about his problems so that I can offer help or advice. - The therapist talks a lot about himself, and I don’t understand how this relates to my therapy. - It seems that the therapist treats what I say superficially and uses it as an excuse to talk about himself. - The therapist acts as if he knows what is best for me without asking my opinion. - The therapist acts cold, distant and uptight. - The therapist often gets angry and yells at me. - The therapist interprets everything that happens between us as transference, even if I am sure that his actions had a direct connection with how I feel. - Since the beginning of therapy, I have felt rather worse than better, and the psychotherapist does not express any concern about this and does not offer any explanations why this is happening to me. - Since the beginning of therapy, for the first time in my life, I have had thoughts of suicide and suicidal moods, the psychotherapist seems to be completely doesn't care.- Psychotherapistbehaves aggressively and like a sadist. - One gets the impression that the psychotherapist is pleased to see my pain. - The psychotherapist directly or indirectly suggests that I commit suicide (for example, he says that I’m better off dead / tells me that he saw me dead in a dream / proves that suicide is a reasonable alternative). - The psychotherapist is insulting about the things in me that I cannot change - my physical parameters and abilities, weight, nationality, gender, age, sexual orientation, the history of my illness, etc. - The psychotherapist is insulting to others aspects of my life. I get the feeling that he wants to destroy me, and not help me build my life. - The psychotherapist threatens that if I don’t do as he says, I will never be cured. Sometimes it seems he is right, sometimes he is wrong. - The therapist downplays the importance of my previous experiences with other people who abused their position in my life. - The therapist refuses to work with my current needs and always insists that my current problems must be solved by working through my past experiences. - The therapist often yells at me. - I often say that therapy is not helping me, but the therapist ignores this. - When I ask questions about what is happening in my therapy, the therapist refuses to discuss them, discuss his work and what I what I can expect from therapy. - The psychotherapist refuses to talk about his education, license, etc. - The psychotherapist lies about his education, license, etc. - The psychotherapist advertises services for which he is not qualified to provide. - The psychotherapist uses alcohol and drugs with me. - Insults me for having problems. - Therapy ended without a process of ending therapy. - Therapy ended, I feel very upset, and the therapist did not recommend another professional for me to see. - The therapist discussed me with other people without my permission. - The therapist did not explain confidentiality issues to me. .Dual Role- My therapist is my employer.- I work for my therapist in exchange for therapy.- My therapist is my teacher, dissertation advisor, etc.- We are friends outside of psychotherapy.- My therapist is my relative.- He a close friend of our family. - We are colleagues or work in the same organization. - We have a business together. - He borrowed money from me. Feel special - The therapist told me that I was his favorite client. - The therapist discussed other clients in my presence .- The therapist, in my presence, spoke on the phone with other clients and told me who they are.- The therapist told me that he had never met a person like me.- The therapist gives me a lot of gifts and says that this shows how I am for is important to him. - The therapist discusses other clients with me in such a way that I feel trusted, that I am important and special. - The therapist told me that I am special. Social contacts - I attended parties where my therapist was present, and he did not discuss with me situations of rotation in the same social circles. - The psychotherapist invited me to parties. - I invited the psychotherapist to parties and he came to them. - I invited the psychotherapist to parties and he did not come, but explained it by , that he had other things scheduled at that time. - I attended professional events with this psychotherapist, to which he invited me. - The psychotherapist and I usually attend the same addiction programs (Alcoholics Anonymous, etc.) - The therapist often gives me a ride to the bus stop after a session. - The therapist often gives me a ride home after a session. - I spent the night at the therapist's house. - I spent time with family members of the therapist. - I had an intimate relationship with someone in the therapist's family. “The psychotherapist and I have mutual friends.” The psychotherapist hints,that after the end of therapy we can be friends. - The therapist takes drugs and drinks alcohol with me. - The therapist gave me drugs. - I saw my therapist naked in the gym, beauty salon, etc. - I saw my therapist in the gym (clothed) .- The therapist and I play on the same sports team.- The therapist and I regularly play on sports teams that play against each other.- I have access to a lot of personal information about the therapist through mutual friends or colleagues.- We have never discussed , how social contacts outside of therapy affect our professional relationships. Sectarian motives - There appear to be many clients who are close to this therapist. I have met them and heard about them. - The therapist loves to promote a family and community atmosphere among his clients, and I am part of that family or community. [Hi Litvak!] - The therapist hosts parties and gatherings at his home, and I have attended them. - The psychotherapist often uses his former clients as trainers in his training organization. - The psychotherapist plays the role of a guru for his clients. He has his own vision of the correct way of the world and he is trying to create a community where clients act as followers. - I take part in planning the creation of this kind of community for my psychotherapist. - The psychotherapist tells me about other clients, without caring at all about the confidentiality of their personal information .-Ritual group activities such as ceremonies are part of my relationship with the psychotherapist and the community of his clients.-The therapist is the guru in the group in which he participates.-Ritual sadistic activities in the presence of others.Mind control-The therapist uses hypnosis as part of the work, and I I often don't know what's going on. The therapist refuses to answer questions when I ask. - I feel like I was hypnotized or in a trance state in the presence of my therapist, although at first glance it does not seem that he is using hypnosis. - I remember the therapist doing hypnotic suggestions with which I do not feel comfortable. - After therapy, I began to remember some things that the therapist said or did while I was in a trance state that, in retrospect, make me feel uncomfortable and self-abused. - The therapist suggests to me kill myself. - The therapist does not take my suicidal feelings seriously. He said or implied that it would be easier for me to die. - The therapist has developed a strong dependence on me and is trying to force me to do things that I do not want to do. - The therapist is abusive towards the things in my life that I consider good.- Soon after I started therapy, my life began to fall apart. The therapist does not express any concern about my life. He is more interested in me remaining dependent on him. Sometimes after sessions I feel like I'm on drugs. Sex - The therapist did the following things (using physical force or not): kissing the lips, kissing the breasts, genitals; hugs of an explicit sexual nature (prolonged pressing with the whole body, thrusts of the pelvis, palpable erection); partial or complete undressing for the purpose of sexual contact; touching the breasts or genitals (with or without clothing); masturbation; oral sex; vaginal or anal sex; use of sex toys; sexual activity while I was under the influence of drugs. The therapist forced me to have sex against my will. - The therapist forced me to have sex with him on the condition that I not tell anyone about it, otherwise it would harm me or my family. - After the sex ended, the therapist told me that if I tell someone about this, it will cause irreparable damage to him and his life (which should make you feel guilty) - After the sex is over, the therapist threatens me that he will make my.