In the generic system there are three important laws: 1. The law of belonging/manifestation - All members of the generic system are recognized and take their place in the family, including aborted and illegitimate children, stepmothers, lovers, suicides and etc. All the husband's children from his first marriage, aunts and uncles, children from mistresses - no one can be forgotten or expelled from the clan. Consequences of breaking the law: Repeating the fate of ancestors Feeling that you are not living your own life Problems with your personal life Inadequate and lack of contact with reality Repetition of scenarios, walking in circles Deviant ( behavior of children that does not correspond to generally accepted social norms. Chronic disease (the same with all ancestors). In my practice, I explore these cases through emotional-imaginative, vicarious perception, through the compilation of a genogram. Continuation of the Law of Hierarchy. Life, energy flows from top to bottom (parents nourish You, you pass on life to the children - while you bring all your strength back to capable parents - children and partners are in short supply). Elders need to be respected and honored (not only parents, but also brothers and sisters). The younger ones should know their place. When you try to teach your mom or dad about life, you violate the main law of the generic system. It is important to stop in time and understand that if your parents raised you (fed, shod and raised you), they can still cope without “smart” advice. When brothers and sisters and children reach adulthood, they become equal. Everyone becomes equal, both adults and children - when they reach adulthood. Relationships are built from equal adult positions. Violations. Being a mother, father for other adults (dads, mothers, grandmothers, sisters, girlfriends) When the younger one interferes in the life of the older one, condemns, does not accept, does not respect The older one shifts responsibility to the younger one and demands care ( mother entrusts the upbringing of her youngest child to her older children and requires care and love for herself) Wanting children to take care of your feelings and be comfortable = putting them in the position of a partner or parent. Forget about first wives and husbands and their children. Consider yourself worse than others Compare, condemn, evaluate, criticize, devalue yourself Do not give to yourself first, give to others and to yourself, if left. Consequences. Conflicts with parents Too close relationship with parents Hyper-responsibility Lack of energy Fears, anxiety Lack of self-acceptance, inability to refuse Lack of contact with your feelings Problems in your personal life. In such requests I work with separation moments of the client, a wide range of tools - working with subpersonalities, working with repressed emotions, working with difficult childhood events in life, identifying the client’s functionality in his life, coaching, diary of observing emotions, manifestation of a wide range of emotions, a common problem is suppressed anger, inability to be angry and show anger. Work on reducing anxiety, allowing yourself not to be responsible for everyone! = for the whole world (that is, living in the status of God and bearing the same colossal responsibility on yourself). The law of balance. Energy goes from elders to younger ones and from younger ones to older ones. Parents raise their children, pass on knowledge, respect, and teach them to read. And when children grow up, they do the same for their offspring, with gratitude to the older generation. The law of balance is not material, but spiritual, when you take care of the older generation through showing them warmth, love, support, going to family holidays. How the law works: You received something good (from a person. Systems, companies. Events, partner) return a little more of the good, then the balance is maintained and the development of these relationships.communications.You received something bad. Then return a little less bad. Violations: The person’s contribution is not noticeable and not recognized. You are adopted by other adults. You sacrifice yourself for the interests of your partner. You appropriate what does not belong to you. You do not develop your life, relationships, realization. You do not want to develop your life. Demand from your partner what you did not receive from your parents (care , attention, gifts,!