From the author: We endlessly demand flowers, gifts, declarations of love, and we feel insecure even in the most perfect body. Why can’t the attributes and fetishes of femininity satisfy the need for confirmation of one’s self? Stiletto heels, lace lingerie, cosmetics - the list of fetishes that can awaken gender identity is endless... Attributes that confirm belonging to the female caste, goods for which the demand will never end! I take a bottle of French perfume, the scent that I remember from childhood, and at that moment the earth slows down its rotation, everything around is filled with magic, and I turn into a WOMAN... the one I dreamed of being in my childhood dreams, when I secretly climbed into my mother’s closet and studied all sorts of “feminine things”, lipsticks, brooches, beads, hairpins... Is it possible to buy a woman’s identity in a store? put on yourself with the scent of perfume? forget it in a taxi, along with your purse? can't be seen in your reflection without makeup? devalue by looking at a glossy magazine? You can desperately pursue it if you have the strength and motivation, supporting manufacturers of cosmetics, clothing and underwear, as well as the guild of hairdressers, cosmetologists and plastic surgeons. Is it possible to choose a man as a confirmation of sexual attractiveness and femininity? Is it possible to abandon gender identity altogether by choosing the role of a career woman, a nun or an asexual being? Female identity, what is it? The true initiation of a woman does not occur through puberty or through fetishes. We gain recognition of our femininity in a relationship with a wiser and more experienced woman, who ideally should be Mom. A mother who is able to accept her sexuality and femininity, and also accept these qualities in her daughter. The daughter’s public or unspoken message: “I am a woman myself, I know myself, and in you I also see and recognize a woman.” This sacred knowledge about themselves, their femininity and purpose helps growing girls not to experience confusion, loneliness, or fear when encountering their sexuality. In practice, we are faced with the fact that we have only a vague idea of ​​what it is like to be a mother, wife, or friend. And the above-mentioned attributes and fetishes cannot satisfy the need for confirmation of one’s self. Therefore, we endlessly demand flowers, gifts, declarations of love, and we feel insecure even in the most perfect body. Therefore, one’s self-esteem and sense of attractiveness cannot be significantly adjusted by the height of the heel and the size of the breast, the number of roses or signs of male attention. Self-esteem and attitude, the attitude towards oneself, one’s femininity is formed and regulated from within. And this is a completely different path, a path of self-knowledge, directed towards the inner world and studying oneself, restoring connections with mother, grandmother and establishing healthy relationships with other women, girlfriends and daughters.