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Many texts and lists have already been proposed on this topic. I will also make my contribution to this issue.1. “The psychologist is always cheerful and happy.” One would like to continue “... that is, a maniac,” since the description of high mood and vigor in the clinic is inherent precisely in manic disorder. No, we are intoxicatingly sad when we are sad, and we know how to mutter, even whine, if that’s how life turns out. The main thing is that we ourselves treat this normally, we don’t “nag” ourselves for being sad. And it’s so sickening, why nag?2. “A psychologist manipulates the people around him” (= “...and can teach this”). Here I can upset many people. Scientific psychology is built precisely on the idea of ​​how important it is to help a person accept himself and others as they are! And don’t try to redo it, especially “on the sly,” that is, through manipulation. The psychologist in this regard is a model of openness and acceptance, and not a teacher of guile and cunning. 3. “A psychologist immediately determines his psychology by a person’s appearance.” There are nuances. What do you mean by "appearance"? Height, facial features, and attire are not psychologically informative. Physiognomy has failed. Only very pronounced signs of anatomical degradation can be noticed and attributed to markers indicating people prone to crime. The rest has not been confirmed in research. Another thing is the gait, the general “figure” of the body, which can indicate a state: apathy, resentment, tightness, etc. But the condition is a temporary phenomenon. That's all. 4. “The psychologist knows what’s right.” Well, that’s generally true. The adherents of this myth not only believe that I know how to live correctly, but they are even offended that I do not tell them this. Why doesn’t the psychologist tell you what’s right? Because there is no rightness. There is a way you want to live. And the job of a psychologist is to help you decide to live the way you want and learn to enjoy it.5. “The psychologist is not mistaken.” How great it would be if this were true! But no. Life teaches us from mistakes. And we - psychologists - use this, that is, we actively make mistakes. To reduce this option to a minimum when working with clients, we simply try not to assert anything at all, we make assumptions. And you already feel whether this assumption is true or not. That is, the most important criterion of truth/falsehood is the client’s feelings and thoughts. If the question is strict: for example, confirmation or refutation of a diagnosis, then we use strict standardized methods that deprive us of the margin of error from personal mistakes. In general, if the psychologist’s conclusion does not convince you and you feel that he is wrong, it is better to go to another one to be sure. But be prepared for the fact that we often agree completely.6. “The psychologist will prescribe medication and everything will go away.” No. Simply no.7. “A good psychologist has an ideal family.” In fact, a psychologist may also not be immediately lucky with his choice in marriage. He may also fall out of love. People generally don't control their crushes very well. Education has little effect on this. Therefore, the psychologist may ultimately decide to get a divorce. Can start a family again. His children - imagine - are also experiencing a teenage crisis. He, too, may have a strained relationship with his parents... Does this indicate unprofessionalism? Not at all necessary. Unprofessionalism can only be evidenced by unsolvable problems that bring suffering. Usually, by the time a psychologist begins practicing counseling and psychotherapy, he no longer has such unsolvable problems, since his professional path requires him to go through the client’s path himself. That is, he has already sorted out his life, his desires and difficulties with another psychologist and can now help others.