Shyness and social fears do not arise overnight. In a previous article we already talked about how to deal with this kind of fear, but here’s what I noticed. Often UNDERSTANDING HOW a person behaves and how he reinforces his fears is no less therapeutic. The habit of avoiding interaction with society is like a vicious circle: Let's see how this happens. The more insecure a person feels with others, the worse the impression he makes; the worse the impression, the less positive reactions from the environment; the less positive feedback from other people, the more insecure he becomes, and sophiophobia gets even worse. We are entering the next round. And this wheel is spinning more and more with the next social contact. The thoughts in my head are becoming more and more painful, every exit into society is like a small nightmare. When among people, a person is so busy with his own experiences that he is unable to maintain basic eye contact or conversation, which causes an obvious negative reaction in other people. Social phobes are often perceived by others as arrogant, distant and uninterested in communication. They stop interacting with them, because any communication is an exchange, first of all, of attention. And the poor fellow has another reason for self-criticism and reinforcement of social phobia. At a group training, I noticed the surprise of the participants when I talked about this circle*. Everyone recognized themselves, although before it seemed that their case was unique. The mechanism of reinforcement of social phobia is exactly this, and the good news is that you can stop spinning this wheel. Once again, I will leave a link to an article about methods of overcoming social fears. I also recommend reading literature on this topic, in my TOP 5 these books are about how to become more confident in society. If you have any questions, feel free to ask! If you need a personal consultation, come, I will be happy to help you understand your particular situation.****The figure shows N. Vlasov’s model of social skills deficit. You can also take a multifactorial test yourself to determine whether you are developing social phobia and get feedback with recommendations from the psychologist, the author of this article.