Ruptures, flabby muscles, feeling like a milkskin - all this happens to mom. Chronic lack of sleep affects everyone. Endless diaper changes and ringing in the ears from the baby's scream. It is in such an atmosphere that young parents take their first, timid steps into a new intimate life. If both parents are involved in caring for a newborn child, for the first month they forget about their gender. Perhaps somewhere there are mad stallions who, after a week of sleep deprivation, can think about actively using their bed. But more often than not, the shapes of the native pillow look in the reddened eyes of men more pleasant than all the other roundness of the world. It is just as normal for a woman to get lost somewhere among the diapers, acting as life support equipment for Orun Kobyziansky. By the way, a child’s cry is a unique natural phenomenon. Its frequency and volume are chosen in such a way that it is impossible not to hear it. And it is also impossible to get used to it - unlike other irritants. Even people hardened by their neighbors who are hammer drillers and street night racers jump up at any time from the children's overflows soaking into their brains. But the desired male organ, under the influence of these sounds, just as quickly takes on a transport position. Therefore, the first sex of young parents is very reminiscent... Actually, the first sex is reminiscent. We looked around, listened, did the job, scanning the sounds of the environment with half an ear, keeping half an eye on the crib. The result is as expected: “No, ice cream is better.” The second time, predictably, will not happen soon. And it’s not far from taking turns locking yourself in the bathroom with your smartphone at the ready. By the way, the problem of the other half’s addiction to pornographic films is one of the common problems with which young parents turn to psychologists. So what's the deal? Have your feelings faded? Is your wife no longer attracted to you? Or maybe partner childbirth caused an aversion to the very idea of ​​reproduction? It is noteworthy that such and similar questions are usually asked by the fair half of humanity. As if the problem of sex after childbirth exists only for women. In any case, they are the ones who most often raise the alarm. In fact, the whole point is the difference between male and female perceptions of the world in general and sex in particular. For a woman, the intimate side of a relationship is an integral part of a happy married life. In this case, the relationship should be of the highest possible quality (in extreme cases, quantity). And after childbirth, feeling physical and mental breakdown, a woman needs sex as confirmation of her own attractiveness and proof of love. It is normal for a man to separate sex and love. Moreover, sublimation in men is more successful. As one admiral said, “If a naval officer can please his wife after a day of service, it means he is not doing his best in the service.” That is, a decrease in the need for sex due to additional hassle and decreased quality of sleep for a man is a normal and natural phenomenon. At the same time, he can become even more attached to his wife. Such is the disharmony. What to do? 1. To begin with, know and take into account the characteristics of the male and female body. This will help avoid suspicion and accusations.2. Talk to your partner. Talk openly about your feelings, feelings, fears.3. Look for a way to be together. In the first months, such an event will be rare. But over time, your dates will happen more and more often. Usually, following these three rules is enough for harmony to return to the marital relationship. More publications can be found on my channel