Do you want to be liked by others? Some devote almost their entire lives to this and are aware of it (they say: “What can you do? That’s who I am!”), while others don’t even suspect how strong this desire is, since it may not be realized at all. How does this manifest itself? For example, an acquaintance passed by without even a glance, and this aroused suspicion that he was offended and very unpleasant feelings. Or at work they noted the merits of a colleague, which alarmed you. Or you gather relatives for the holidays not because of your need to simply see your loved ones in the family circle, but out of fear of not meeting their expectations. There are many such examples. If a person is driven by the desire to be liked, he usually tries not to create circumstances in which others might react negatively to him. “What, you can’t? And I was counting on you so much!”... This phrase can ruin the mood of someone who always wants to be liked for a single day. It’s easier for him to agree, even if he really doesn’t want to do something. He tries to be careful, delicate, caring, he’s afraid of refusing, upsetting, offending... “I don’t want to be rejected!” - perhaps the thought sounds implicitly in the background for him. Such people are sociable, but avoid voicing their own opinion if it differs from other people’s ideas. They are sensitive, able to empathize with what others are experiencing, flexible, friendly, strive not only not to cause inconvenience to others, but also constantly try to create comfortable conditions for them. It is easy to find common ground with them and reach a compromise. Who do you think will give in more? They are convenient, but they are not very appreciated! And what is it like for them? Those who absolutely want to be liked, as a rule, do not live a very happy life - insecure, sacrificial, anxious... But in most cases it is habitual. This position does not appear suddenly. In order to lose self-respect and self-esteem, it takes time or a not particularly prosperous childhood, which happens more often. But there is always a chance to change an unenviable situation into a mostly good one. If you live in such a way that you try to please others, and You're pretty tired of this, maybe see a psychologist?