Once again about love G. V. Balakhonskaya I recently wrote, dear friends, an article about love. It’s called “About Love.” It’s about the fact that we often call love not the feeling of love itself, but something else. Other in the sense that we like something very much, and we say “love” about it. Well, to emphasize that I like it very much. Well, for example, I love swimming. Is this about love? :) No, this is about my pleasure from swimming. Or, let’s say, I love cherries. Is this about love? Well, about the love of cherries, yes. :) But in fact, with the word “love” we simply emphasize, as if we reinforce, that we really like some quality. Well, it’s the taste or the pleasure of moving in the water. Or something else that we really like. In general, my dear readers, you can just read this article “About Love” so that I don’t retell it now. :) Or you can listen to it in the audio version. But what if we are really talking about love? About love as about accepting someone or something in its entirety with all its nuances and features? And even some features may not be particularly liked - if as a separate object. But in belonging to a specific person whom we love, even this feature is accepted by us. Well, as a kind of zest. :) Which in this particular person we loved as part of it. But even when we love a person, we have many different emotions. And not necessarily only positive ones. Which, in general, is normal if the importance and significance of this person for us still comes first. And sometimes it happens that we are dissatisfied with what the person we love does. At the same time, I would like to emphasize that it is necessary to separate what a person does and him as such. Because this is not the same thing! Because we can all make mistakes. And we all sometimes do stupid things. As you know, only those who do nothing make no mistakes. A loved one, even if he makes a mistake or does something stupid, doesn’t become bad. But he remains loved. Well, if it’s love and not something else. :) Well, for example, you can tell your beloved child that you don’t like this thing of his behavior, but you love him anyway. But you can deal with some erroneous action. You can discuss this matter, you can rethink it, you can correct something, and so on. Love doesn't go anywhere! Or if this is not a child, but quite an adult. Whom we love. Everything is the same. A person can make mistakes. We can make mistakes. You can be dissatisfied with something. But actions and actions are separate, and a person is separate. You can deal with this. And love for this particular person - either it exists or it doesn’t. If this is really about love, then you can figure it out. For example, if we love a person, we like the person, but he does something wrong. Well, let's start to figure it out. This “not that” - what is it about? And what is “that”? Who determines what is this and what is not that? Do I determine? And what do I have - sacred access to knowledge, which is correct in the absolute? :) )No, right? :) That is, it probably makes sense, dear friends, to try to understand what motivated the other person? What does he mean? What reasons does he have to behave this way? But we also have reasons to perceive his behavior this way and not otherwise? Right? For some reason this is how we react? Why? In general, taking the position of another person can be very useful! And look at a situation you don’t like from an unfamiliar side. You can see a lot of new things! :) And sometimes you can be very surprised. :) For example, look at yourself through the eyes of our loved one person and see the behavior that seems offensive to him. Or defiant. And we are neither in sleep nor in spirit..!:)) And here we understand that we, too, sometimes do something wrong!:)) In general, we need to clarify! And the best way to do this is conversation! Full dialogue. When we express our position, we listen to the position of the other person and try to look at ourselves and both of us as if from the outside. Maybe not everything will become clear “at the snap of a finger,” but at least