“Well, I already forgot about it,” “It was so long ago, why bother with it?” and other similar phrases I hear from clients when we touch on an important topic, which, in essence, is the “center” of all difficulties and the reason for his seeking help. And indeed, there are people who sincerely believe that since it was a long time ago, and They have already begun to forget some traumatic events, then these events magically cease to influence them. Like children who covered their faces with their hands and believe that no one sees them. Now imagine, a person forgot that he had a stomach ulcer or gastritis and decided to treat himself to a kebab with onions marinated in vinegar, spicy carrots and other foods prohibited for ulcer sufferers. The question is: how soon will he remember his “painful” characteristics? Because we forget about traumatic events, they continue to influence us. And moreover, they begin to dictate to us certain thoughts and actions that a person is not aware of, does not control, and sometimes cannot at all explain the reason for his actions and his choice in a given situation. So, for example, one of the clients in adolescence age was assaulted with intent to rape. She was very scared; the next few years were filled with worries, shame, etc. In a word, a terrible state, thoughts and feelings. She was left alone with this condition; seeking help from specialists “was not possible,” because... “You have to share what you’re afraid to admit to yourself.” I decided to just FORGET! And now, years later, I finally manage (according to the client) to forget all this horror, disgrace, shame and disgrace. But how does her life change? Trust in men is gone forever. The thought of intimacy with a man (spiritual and physical) was out of the question (fear, fear, fear and disgust). She decided to have a same-sex relationship, which she had never imagined herself in before. She changed her orientation, and moreover, in relationships with women she prefers “hard” methods. On the one hand, she prefers, but on the other, she asked for help, because... considers his “peculiarities” to be abnormal and suffers from this. Thus, forgotten, repressed grievances, pain, fears and other traumatic situations affect us with enormous (often unconscious) force! If you still remember “forgotten” traumas, It is important not to repress them, but, on the contrary, to bring them to the level of awareness and let them go. The work is not easy, but it is necessary, and on your own, without the help of specialists, it is almost impossible (although there are exceptions everywhere). Only in case of deep study is it possible to “cleanse” the consciousness and subconscious from the negative influence of traumatic events.