From the author: Those who want are looking for opportunities, those who don’t want are looking for reasons. After all, motherhood should not deny a woman access to her own desires - for herself and her beloved. How to find time when it is sorely lacking? Every woman who has children will certainly understand what I am talking about. The time comes when you realize that you do not belong to yourself, that your desires are not taken into account, that you have turned into a function that fervently serves your beloved children and husband. Yes, a woman can do a lot. A woman is a cook, a woman is a driver. A woman is a nanny, a teacher, a cleaner and many, many other diverse functions. If you want, add your own. You get so used to this state of affairs that you even stop noticing that you have forgotten about your desires, needs, ideas. There's just really not enough time. The baby absorbs all the time. Now I write more about small children, since mothers of such babies become dependent on diaper and puree matters. Yes, children are wonderful, but mothers should not forget about themselves, because children need satisfied, not tortured mothers. When I had my first child, I did not feel so strongly the need to allocate additional time for self-care , hobbies, reading your favorite books, communicating with friends, to realize a long-planned goal, because then somehow there was time. But when the second baby appeared, I suddenly realized that the distribution of tasks by priority and the separation of the main from the secondary became a very relevant topic. After all, a woman is a very fragile creature. She was created for beauty, for love. She can be flighty and fickle. She is impulsive and beautiful... Yes, it is difficult to remain like that when you are a mother. It’s difficult, but it’s possible if you don’t let the huge number of things to do – caring for children – consume all your time, dear women. So, let’s see where and on what we can save our precious resource – time. Cooking. Oh, how much time we have This process takes away, especially when we have 4 people in our family, like me, for example, and children of different ages. Some people want to eat one thing, some another, and some people, due to their age, are not supposed to eat sausages, for example, but they want to. So, we prepare the simplest dishes possible, the preparation of which takes a minimum amount of time, or rather, not on preparation, but on involving you personally in this process. After all, the meat is baked in the oven, it takes an hour to cook, and you are involved in this process for no more than 10 minutes. That is, my advice is to spend as little time as possible in the kitchen. The exception is women who love to cook and for whom cooking is a hobby. After all, why do we save time? For us, precious ones. So that we have the opportunity to do what our soul desires! Cleaning. An excellent rule says: “It’s clean not where they clean, but where they don’t litter.” Well, try to explain this to the kids. Therefore, in any case, you will have to maintain order constantly. To make your work easier, you need to involve all family members in these processes. Both dad and kids. This kind of event will allow you to save your personal time and serve as a lesson to those who like to throw everything away. Tip: do not strive for perfection, you will never clean everything up perfectly. You will simply be upset because, having removed it, after a couple of hours, you will see that again everything is not in its place. Have pity and love yourself. Be gentle with yourself, be gentle. Also, it wouldn’t hurt to say that any help in this matter will be worth its weight in gold. Either the help of a grandmother, or, if possible, a cleaning lady. Yes, it’s not free, but it’s also not so expensive that you have to invite someone to clean your apartment at least every two weeks. Ironing. I decided for myself a long time ago and I advise you not to iron absolutely all your linen. It is worth ironing only those things that simply need to be ironed: trousers, shirts, in general, that sort of thing. Also, ironing should be combined with watching some good movie that you were already planning to do.!