From the author: People hate each other because they are afraid of each other; they are afraid because they don’t know anything about each other; they don’t know because they don’t communicate, and they can’t communicate because they are separated. Martin Luther King Two banks of the same river! When two people are connected in a marital relationship, they both bring their personal past, culture, and manner of communication to their family. Two different lifestyles, two life experiences and two destinies merge into one. But if each spouse does not have communication skills and the ability to understand the other, intimacy between them will not work. Here I remember an old joke when a man and his wife come to see a psychologist and complain: - Doctor, this one... Well, what’s her name? name?.. In general, this one complains that I pay little attention to her at home. As the reality and style of our life shows, it turned out to be easier and more pleasant for both spouses and their children to listen to the TV presenter than to each other. Maybe TV protects a person from a difficult situation? Communicating face to face is an alarming business, various unresolved problems, grievances, claims immediately come up... And in order to avoid quarrels, it is better to sit in front of the TV or pick up a newspaper - it’s calmer. As the dry statistics of modern family research show, those who have full-fledged and happy families couples who share their feelings with each other. Alienation is a growing problem in marriage today. Many spouses speak through each other, and not to each other. After all, a husband and wife talk all the time! Yes, but talking does not mean communicating. A married couple can wilt under the weight of life's problems and neglect their communication with each other. Often husband and wife talk only about pressing everyday problems. Of course, you can’t do without this, but there are other vital topics that need to be discussed in order for communication to be complete. Conversation is the second, after message, element of communication. Most people consider conversation to be communication - with the purpose of asserting their point of view. To communicate is to truly share yourself with another. Communication is the main way we learn more about each other. Problems in communication are often the cause of marriage breakdowns and the tragic outcome of many family relationships. High-quality communication consists of two parts: the ability to speak and the ability to listen. Many of us are still poor listeners. If we don't listen to what others tell us, we will never understand them. We must learn to listen. If our children come to us with a question while we are busy, we should still put things aside, look the child in the eyes, listen carefully and answer. If they told us something and we didn’t understand it, we should break our pride and ask again. Without the ability to listen, true communication is impossible. From the fact that we are endowed with two ears and one mouth, the Irish deduced the wise conclusion that we should listen twice as much as we speak. Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak. (cf. Ik 1:19) Physiology is an enemy that hinders family communication! The first thing is that women’s need for communication is on average one and a half times greater than the similar need of men. If a woman still wants to chat in the evening, then for many men communication during the working day is more than enough and he wants to be alone. The need for communication is closely related to indicators of extroversion-introversion. The second reason is that men get tired more than women, this is also evidenced by modern research. The body of men, as it turns out, is less resilient: they get sick more, endure illness more severely, and their life expectancy is shorter than that of women. Therefore, the wife should not pester him with the demand “talk to me” and be offended when he has his head buried in the newspaper or the TV. Having rested, he will be more inclined to communicate. In turn, the husband should take into account women’s increased need for communication and, if possible, try to communicate with his wife as much as possible. Communicate in a high-quality manner