From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert on television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, master of NLP, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, which you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia.” As a psychologist-sexologist, I have to work with a variety of male and female sexual problems. If we talk about virginity, then everything is ambiguous. Sometimes later loss of virginity is associated with vaginismus. There are often cases when a girl gets married as a virgin, and remains so for several months, especially if the man has the syndrome of anxious anticipation of sexual failure (ASF), or he himself is a virgin. Then in this case the sexual problem doubles. And often here you have to work with a married couple in sexual marital therapy. In this case, the prognosis for the couple is good, because everything can be solved, although not in 1 session, as some believe. Here you have to work hard - sexologists, family psychologists and psychotherapists know this firsthand. This topic is important for all women. And due to its relevance, I want to highlight it from the point of view of a psychologist, sexologist and psychotherapist. For some, the loss of virginity is not so painful and traumatic from a psychological point of view, and everything is resolved relatively simply. I want to talk to you about problems in this area, and I hope that many things will become clear to you, dear readers. In my practice there are examples of such work. I’ll start with the first situation. A 26-year-old girl came to me for a women’s training in Moscow. We worked with the group in terms of enhancing feminine energies, with feminine and sexual attractiveness. At the end of the training, she came up to me, saying that she was a virgin, also noting that she did not have a simple character and did not have a good relationship with her parents. Then we met at an individual reception. During work, it turned out that she was from a military family with rather strict parents. They, in turn, provided their daughter with different beliefs, by which she lived without fully realizing them. In addition, due to the fact that she was engaged in self-development (which, on the one hand, is certainly good), attended trainings, watched television programs, read a lot of information on various topics, she had many beliefs from books (sometimes that do not fit into her life ), as well as the beliefs of friends, relatives, etc. We had to work for a long time to free her from “chewing other people’s, not always environmentally friendly thoughts.” But let’s return to the beliefs about her virginity. They also had some positive aspects, for example, the fact that the girl “did not give herself to the first person she met,” etc. At the stage of growing up, this is a completely good and correct belief, but later, when she became an adult, it began to interfere with her personal life. I do not encourage her to go and lose her virginity. She will decide this herself, but based on her convictions - at that moment, and with the person with whom she sees fit, and not depending on her parents’ or anyone else’s principles. The second illustrative example is my work as a psychologist and sexologist with a girl from Sochi. The situation there is somewhat different. She was 21 years old, she had a young man whom she was going to marry, they even tried to live together. But as soon as it came to intimacy, she pushed him away, and gradually the relationship began to deteriorate. During work, we developed a difficult relationship with my father, who lived very little in the family, then there was a stepfather, who also could not create a positive male image. In the future we will all».