“The feminine and the refusal of the feminine in both sexes” It is always interesting to hear French analysts on the topic of psychosexuality. Jacqueline Shaffer on "The Feminine and the Refusal of the Feminine in Both Sexes."1. A modern woman, unlike the times of S. Freud, when she was at the mercy of the three Ks (dieKinder, die Küche, die Kirche), has the opportunity to realize herself in the social and professional field. In this regard, she always has an internal conflict between the three poles of her life: maternal, sexual, professional. Feminine maternal is the ability to endure, endure, expect. The feminine professional is “phallic”. Feminine sexuality is passive, the ability to be in this position and give yourself to another. A woman must constantly maneuver and try to balance the three conflicting sides. As soon as one of the poles dominates, the structure becomes shaky.2. Reasons for “Refusal of the feminine in girls.” a) inability to transition to the feminine due to the fact that it was underinvested by the mother; b) at the stage of the father, he was unable to support the development of the feminine in his daughter, and at the same time put a ban (not to seduce, not to be tempted); c) “I” cannot cope with a large amount of excitement and transform it into attraction. As a result, various phobias develop, and fixation at the stage of phallic logic is possible.3. The work of the feminine in both sexes is identification with the feminine, identification with the other, receptivity, acceptance of the other, its otherness, the ability to abandon the logic of the phallic, where power, control, competition dominate. The position of a woman in society is a mirror of the structure and history of a certain civilization, a support and an indicator of changes in society, a symptom of crises and the play of forces between the sexes. As much as the struggle for gender equality is important and constant in the social, political, and economic fields, it is unproductive and harmful in the sexual field, because it risks colliding with the abolition of differences between the sexes.