I think many in their lives have encountered such a situation when, as a child, they voiced that you were cold, tired, in pain, and in response: “You’re not tired.” The child is used to trusting his parents, and hearing such an answer, begins to think that his body is letting him down. Mom can’t be wrong, but I can, which means I’m not tired, and what I feel is not true. And so, over time, he generally ceases to understand himself, to feel his body, but why, if it still gives false signals. Over time, a core of neurotic personality is formed that is unable to make decisions on its own. - Where should I go, what university? - Who should I be friends with? - What should I do? For any question, he looks for an answer from a significant figure (and over time, from any person, just so as not to make a decision himself). Then the wife (husband) appears , which tells them where to go to work, how to build a dialogue with their boss, and where they will go on the weekend. Like in the joke: “Petya, go home!” “Am I cold or hungry?” And it would be funny if it weren’t so sad. Repressed feelings prevent you from living a full and fulfilling life. What if the one who yesterday gave clear instructions on how to proceed disappeared from life? And such a clear and clear world collapses overnight. Where to go, what to do? And the person begins to look for someone who will take the place of this all-knowing object, give recommendations and not allow him to answer questions himself. But this does not solve the problem. Feelings do not return, we do not begin to experience joy or sadness, we do not know how. Everything was decided for us. What should we do? Is there a way to regain the full range of emotions? Of course! And a competent psychologist will help with this, who will teach you how to feel your body step by step, and you will definitely be able to answer the question: are you cold or hungry. It will also teach you to take responsibility for your life and make your own decisions. And you will see that life can be bright and joyful, that you can choose your mood like clothes or makeup, and it is full of pleasures and discoveries. Allow yourself a bright, rich life, do not put off joy for later. Then it may not come. With love, your psychologist. Rubinskikh Marina.