Divorce is for many the worst thing that can happen. Sometimes women cling, humiliate themselves, and are ready to do anything to avoid divorce. It’s scary to be left alone with children, it’s scary to be abandoned, alone. And for the sake of official marriage, we women are ready to tolerate an alcoholic next to us, a man who humiliates and offends, one who walks around and cheats. Just not to be alone. The fear of loneliness is great. And if that same divorce happened, then we wallow in depression for years, we can’t pull ourselves together for years, we have women’s funeral service for family life. What's scary about divorce? There are three main factors: - It's scary. Something new in our lives is always scary. “How am I alone now?” "A child will grow up without a father." “I will save my family. Whatever it costs me." But is it necessary to be so upset about something that didn’t work out, perhaps it wasn’t yours? - Spiritual difficulties. All the same moments as in the scary part, but only with feelings. Experiences, resentment towards him and myself. Memories, soul-searching. Pain, anger, aggression. Mixed feelings: sometimes I love, I can’t, sometimes I hate. - Financial difficulties. “Now I’m responsible for everything.” Men who are more decent or with a feeling of guilt sometimes leave their wives housing, cars, businesses so that they do not feel disadvantaged. It cannot be said that a man always does this for a woman, often for himself too. Children in our country more often stay with their mother. That's how it is with us. I would like to draw your attention to the fact that women take on this function voluntarily and are ready to bear this responsibility. It is difficult to talk about whether it is necessary to try to save every marriage if both want it, then yes. If there is only one, most likely there are few chances. How will a woman cope after a divorce? In this case, no one canceled the feelings and you will need as much time to recover as you need. Very often a woman begins to delve into the past, to find out who is to blame. If he is to blame, it is easier for her, if she is to blame, she begins to eat herself from the inside. In divorce, most often, both are to blame - let's face it. It is also important to admit the fact - it didn’t work out, they couldn’t. This was a common experience. *When the pain in the soul is strong, we look for a quick way to heal it. We rush into new relationships, drink alcohol * We tell everyone that we don’t care. No, it doesn't matter. It hurts and this wound needs to heal. It’s not necessary to build yourself up to be strong, it’s important to tell yourself the truth: - Yes, I’m in pain, I’m going through a divorce, but it will pass, I’ll take the most important things from this experience. * Letter of gratitude. There were good things in the relationship too, it’s important to give this space. Write down in writing what you can thank your partner for. Try not to resist, because at least there will be something. * Draw boundaries. Don’t let your ex barge into your now separate life whenever he wants. *Find a new hobby, or something that has been put off for a long time. Keep yourself busy with something with a new interest, in a new team a new phase of your life will begin, something will start to go differently, and this will be the first step. I sincerely wish you not to get divorced, to be in a couple, but if it happened, ask for help, it’s always easier together. You can sign up for my consultation by writing to me personally, using WhatsApp, Viber, SMS at +7-921-304-17-34