Happiness can only be found on the beaten path. Francois René de Chateaubriand There are questions to which there are no answers. But Humanity is trying! Answer, derive the formula, measure. There are so many thousands of years of those questions, how many heads and glasses have been broken, goose feathers and computer keyboards have been broken! What is happiness? What is love? Whose God is the most correct? What is a sense of life? And... Does happiness exist for women? It is difficult and simple to talk about human happiness at the same time - there is no recipe. Happiness has seven billion options. But I will write about women’s happiness, because I know a lot about women’s UNHAPPINESS. I'm sure YES! Women's happiness exists! And what is it? Attention, now there will be a fresh thought: in Love! If there is SHE, then there must be HE. Yes, there is “just happiness.” Happy man. And there is a happy female destiny. Do you feel the difference? The ingredients of female happiness are thousands of years old. The collective unconscious stubbornly stores in memory: a man (love), a hearth, children. And a woman’s happy destiny is certainly not associated with running a strong, serious business, the ability to drive a car well, shoot and have a black belt in karate. This is a matter of choice. It's great that hobbies and hobbies can be different. Self-sufficiency, personal maturity, intelligence, abilities and talents. Commendable. But someone is missing for a woman’s happy destiny. Of course, a woman can be a happy person. Enjoy the sun, your work, communication with loved ones, creativity. But will this happy man be a happy Woman? Without love? *I’m not talking only about “husband-house-children”. I'm talking about happy relationships. *I’m not talking about “social duty” - marriage, it does not equal happiness. You can get married so that your relatives and friends will lag behind with their stupid questions: “well, when will you…”. *I'm not talking about children. If a woman’s happiness lies in children and the meaning of life lies in them, then those children are poor. Try to be someone's meaning yourself. The burden is heavy. Children cannot be the meaning. They are people. Just small. And it’s sad when they drag through life the burden of replacing women’s happiness. *I'm not talking about love addiction - addiction can be dictated by the fear of loneliness. I don't mean that a man (any particular one) is happiness and meaning. I'm talking about love, a loved one, partnership, friendship, sincere relationships. There is happiness in them. Women's happiness is to be in a couple, to love, to feel love, to create and maintain relationships. There is no opposition here: happy with a man, happy in marriage, or happy in creativity, in profession, in friendship. One does not exclude the other, that’s the point. There is no either/or. Woman and man are not equal and not different. They are unique. The meeting of two unique creatures brings something wonderful into existence... Osho So why exactly women's happiness? What about men's? Children's? Elderly? Yes, different ages have their own tasks and priorities. And even more so for all (both) genders. Even the midlife crisis has a female version. There is human physiology. But there is gender (sexual) physiology. Gynecologist and urologist are different specialties. Anthropology, mythology, and cultural studies also speak about the difference between men and women. Biological, social, psychological purposes are different! And these are not stereotypes, which it is so fashionable to glibly disavow. This is a given. And it all starts in the maternity hospital. Pink ribbon. Blue ribbon. And - forward! In life! So they will be different in order to be together... Woman and Man. I didn't insert pictures. You can imagine for yourself: 5 years old - a girl and a boy, a sand cake... 10 years old - her briefcase in the hand of a classmate... 17 years old - the first kiss with him after prom... 25 years old - together on the sea coast... 37 years old - together at an exhibition photographs... 49 years old - rustling leaves in the park and one dog for two... 62 years old - an old apple tree at the porch of a common garden... 84 years old - two wrinkled hands, one in the other, she and he by the fireplace under the same blanket... By the way, with her he can be aloneand the same person, or maybe they are different. But a Woman needs a Man. For the completeness of women's happiness. Our world is dual. Day and night. Light and darkness. Good and evil. Heaven and hell. Yin and Yang. Anima and Animus. Feminine Image of a vessel, jug, water, Earth. Preservation, absorption. Passivity. Intuition. Masculine principleImage of an arrow, a sword, the Sun. Achievements, moving forward. Activity. Logic. Masculine and Feminine. They are different at a deep level. Harmony is in pairs. The only way. A woman is an invitation to happiness. Charles Baudelaire There are several types of happy women: - Women who are happy in a feminine way. They have a Beloved Man. Often in the form of a bonus - children, hearth. With all this, they can also be happy with “ordinary human” happiness in anything: profession, creativity, hobbies, walks, communication... I’m happy for them. - Women who are happy just like that. But despite all this, they expect him. No, they don’t beat their heads against the wall in anguish, but simply hope and believe that HE will appear in their lives. They need HIM. I admire and support such women in every possible way. - Women who are forced to defend themselves. Alas, accumulated disappointments, their own bad experiences, the experience of relationships in their parents’ family, mistrust, and lack of acceptance of men break them. And that’s all... “I’m fine as is. Why do I need these socks, pots, addiction.” The speaker is being disingenuous. And he deprives himself of the opportunity to change the situation. I sympathize with these women. Do they refuse the happiness of loving, feeling love, always having a close friend nearby, going through life together, enjoying sex? No, they protect themselves from fear and pain, they don’t believe, that’s all. They refuse a man who may be the same as his father, brother, ex-husband, yesterday's lover. Women who stand up for freedom are obviously not free. Freedom and independence within. This is a given of a person. Am I either independent or married? Again, there is no either/or here. Fear that a man will take something away, encroach on something? Freedom and independence from what? From love? From sex? From a partnership? From the shoulder? Just give up on love? From happiness with your Beloved? Who in their right mind could refuse this? As long as the woman defends herself, it helps. Right! Don’t let them ask, don’t advise, don’t regret and don’t look into your eyes, exploring - are you happy? But when a woman herself believes that she does not need Love, she begins to lose touch with her true femininity, with her essence, with her nature. And this connection may be lost forever. The saddest thing is that a woman, in despair, gives up and refuses the opportunity. And the Universe (Lord God, the Supreme Mind, or whoever someone likes) looks and thinks: “It’s already good, it doesn’t need anything more, and so be it...” What could be worse than a world ruled by men? Unless it's a world run by women. Nancy Astor If you ask a woman to draw an inner image of herself, she can depict a strong, brave, free Amazon, sometimes with a sword or spear. Beautiful independent Amazons... I really want to ride freely on a vigorous horse, leaving a trail of long thick hair! Oh! Do you think they were like that? No. Amazons are scary thunder women. They carried huge shields and axes. They fought in wars with men, their limbs were cut off, they were left with scars on their bodies, like an ordinary warrior. Since childhood, Amazons had one breast burned or cut off so that it would not interfere with placing a bow on the shoulder. These man-killers even defeated male warriors in battles. And they walked in triumph to their lonely huts, shaking their lonely breasts. They were independent and free, yeah, depriving themselves of part of their femininity. So today’s independent “Amazons” symbolically deprive themselves of femininity. On the outside, she can be beautiful, elegant, well-groomed, smart, beautiful. And inside her lives the shadow of a scary and aggressive half-woman, competitive, dissatisfied, tough. If it is difficult for a woman to use her feminine inner, natural strength and energy, she replaces it with a masculine one - active, aggressive, fiery. Harmony of the masculineand the feminine principles are collapsing. And a man will only fight with such a woman. In business, in politics, in family. We should give the man what belongs to him. All swords, bows, arrows and knives. Let go of the Amazon image from your unconscious. Stop competing with the world of men. After all, a woman will definitely lose in this competitive war. Let someone fight for freedom and equality of the oppressed sex. Why do you need this? Are you depressed? Are you not free? ***Next to a woman there is an energy space that the Gods have prepared for the Beloved Man. Is it empty? Nature, as we know, abhors a vacuum. And this vacuum begins to become clogged with anything else. HE, even having appeared on the horizon of fate, will no longer be able to get closer. Busy. Caring for parents and children, creativity, hard work, travel, sports, friends, hobbies. Success is planned in these areas of life. Of course, so much energy was put into it. This is wonderful! In Eastern philosophy, there is an idea of ​​certain human energy centers - chakras. And the second chakra, located in the lower abdomen, is equally responsible for the energy of love, sexuality and... creativity. Yes, when there is no love, creativity can replace it. Any activity can become a substitute for love. But - can be revived by love. Which one is more to your heart? Remind me of some work of world literature, retell a movie, point to a poem, show a picture that glorifies the absence of love. Any example from the cultural heritage of mankind, where, if the happiness of a woman without a man is described, would not regret and/or hope run through a thin thread?.. Loneliness is a great thing, but not when you are alone. George Bernard Shaw Having written the article, I I knew what opinion I would express. But I decided to talk to my friend. She is soon 40 years old. Last year she got married for the first time. And before that I waited, searched, believed, prayed. And she was always happy, yes. Job. Son. Friends. Rest. Cheerful, active. But she always waited, believed and was not deceived. She knew that she was a happy person, but she lacked female happiness. When I suggested thinking about “just happiness,” she said: “What flowers! What sunshine! What job! All this is great, it was before and is now. But a loved one, a friend nearby - that’s happiness. Feminine. Human nature and design. Don't kid yourself that it's good enough. Not good. I can compare. Be happy for years “just like that.” And everything is the same, but plus - women's happiness! There is a difference". Perhaps my professional experience also allows me to add percentages in favor of my own opinion. Because every day I meet beautiful, smart, creative, cheerful, self-sufficient, successful and independent women. These are the same women they talk about: look, my neighbor (friend, sister, colleague) is alone and absolutely happy! Those women who say: “Oh, I’m so tired of being alone. Everyone thinks I'm happy. And I have to pretend that I’m already fine. But I don't feel good. I want to meet my loved one and just be a happy woman.” They are worthy of admiration because they do not lie to themselves. These women are fighting for their feminine happiness. They fight their fears, say goodbye to the ghosts of the past. They do not confuse loneliness and solitude. You can choose solitude and then return. And loneliness, alas, comes on its own. There is an opinion that “we are born and die alone.” I am not sure. As Irvin Yalom said: “Human existence begins with a lonely cry in anxious anticipation of an answer.” We are greeted at the midwife table and escorted to our deathbed. And life between these moments can be filled with love. Don't settle for loneliness! Run away from loneliness! Save yourself! Don't get used to it and don't be deceived! ***So, I am sure that women's happiness exists. It's about being able to be together. Together with the man I love. Without him, a woman is simply a happy person. You can consider my opinion a social stereotype and categorically)