From the author: About desires and what prevents them from coming true. “I want” and “I don’t want” makes you move towards what you want or move away from what is unpleasant. “I want” or “I don’t want” shows your attitude towards what whatever it is or to anyone. “I want” or “I don’t want” - these are our desires, secret and obvious, everyday and cherished, our own and others... What we encounter every day, but to the end about We know very little of them. What are desires? Desire is a mental impulse aimed at satisfying needs. A mental state that precedes an action and shapes a person’s behavior. You can also say that desire is a certain form of suffering for something that does not exist now. Desire is always specific (I know what I want), it contains a motive (why and for what I want it) and there is an idea of ​​how I I will achieve it. For example, I want water to drink and I’ll pour it for myself from that bottle. I want to meet that handsome man, it seems to me that we have common topics to continue our acquaintance. To begin with, I will ask him how to get to the specified address. When the desire is realized and the necessary need is satisfied, the person feels satisfaction, pleasure and an influx of strength. Those. embodying your own desires is the path to increasing resources. Why are desires not realized? Whether the impulse turns into action and whether the need is satisfied depends on several factors: 1. Safety How safe/profitable/correct it is, from the point of view of lived experience, to move towards what you want. If you have a negative experience that has led to the beliefs: “what I want never comes true,” “my desires do not lead to anything good,” “it’s better to be content with little,” “it’s better not to do something than to do something bad,” then, most likely, a person’s desires will remain at the level of fantasies about how good it would be... 2. Forbidden desires Is there a ban on this particular desire, on this need. For example, “asking for help is a shame” - in this case, it will be extremely difficult for a person to express his need for support, his desire to hear encouraging and warm words, and even more so to accept support from other people. Most likely, such a ban will lead to difficulties in building personal relationships. Prohibitions on certain desires have their roots in childhood: “good boys/girls don’t want this,” “mom gets very upset when you ask for this,” “you can’t want this!” etc. 3. To make others feel good. Is this desire contrary to the desires of the people around you? For example, when there is a habit of prioritizing the desires and needs of other people, then, most likely, your own needs will be relegated to the background. Hence, dissatisfaction with oneself and others, the perception of oneself in situations of contact being used by others, dependence on the reactions of people around oneself to the actions and oneself. 4. Misunderstanding of one’s desires Does a person understand his desires or is he more accustomed to following the instructions of the people around him and the rules that exist in a given society. Often in this case, a person will have the feeling that he is going somewhere wrong, doing something wrong. Sooner or later, unheard own desires will lead to unexpected outbreaks of bad mood, irritability, sleep problems, and health difficulties. It is quite possible that there are other factors that influence the realization of desires. In this article, I described those that I most often encounter when working with clients. How are you doing with making your desires come true? How satisfied are you with your ability to realize your desires? At the training “Access Code to Your Desires” you will find out what is stopping you from realizing your desires and will find a way to overcome this obstacle. With wishes for ease in realizing your desires, Svetlana Podnebesnaya. Materials on the same topic. Eat what you give! Or how the satisfaction of needs in childhood affects the character and destiny of a person. A short story about forgotten desires In the footsteps of Nastenka. Or is it convenient to be comfortable??